Does it scare of hurt them more when they fall back?

Question

My baby learned how to sit but sometimes shes still wobbles. She was sitting and I was in front of her tryin to get her to crawl to me but she fell back on the carpet. My bf says it scares them more than it hurts them. But i think it hurts them more. The back of her head lands on the carpet. Couldnt catch her in time.

You are so stupid GB. please dont answer if your going to make a dumb remark like that!

Answer 1

It probably scares her and hurts a little... I know she's your baby and you want to be there to catch her and keep her from falling or hurting herself every time... Unfortunately you can't.
It sounds like you watch her fairly close - and it what you described you were in front of her so there to give her immediate comfort - but it's important to put her down there to try again! That's how they learn... Sometimes when mine was a baby I'd compare it to me without really thinking - she is very small, when sitting down the floor is not far at all! LOL so even though she cries it's probably a combo of being startled and it being a little uncomfortable.

I discovered with mine when he was about a yr maybe 2 - he acted totally dif when he fell in front of me or someone else - and sometimes he'd actually look at me first like he was deciding if he was OK or not - if I gasped or jumped up to get him he's start to cry - it was like "if mom thinks I'm hurt I must be hurt!" LOL as he got a little older I tried very hard to stay upbeat and with a smile say "oh no you went bump - ok, hop up! your OK" Obviously only when I knew he hadn't seriously hurt himself!

But she's gonna fall and get lots of bumps and bruises as she learns to crawl, walk, run, ride a bike, etc.
I know it's hard mom but the best way to help her toughen up is to try and make yourself toughen up a little bit...

Keep on working with her and loving her - sounds like your doing a terrific job!

Answer 2

He's right it mostly scares them. especially since it's carpet. Hate to see you when the walking starts. That is the scary time. remove all sharpedged furniture from the house. No really I tapes washcloths to the corners of my coffee table.They probably have things for that now. But that worked for the short time I had to use them. Babies heads are still flexible for the first year or so. the soft spot in the top of the head is the most vulnerable spot. The other skull bones aren't completly alosed and are somewhat flexible just for this reason. Wasn't God something when he designed us. Congratulations and try to not panic. have fun. Sometimes they react because they sense the fear or that you are upset. If you make a big deal every time the baby falls it will get in a habit really quick to panic and cry because it gets your attention and you expect it to. good luck.

Answer 3

It is normal for a baby to fall and yes it does hurt them, but not more then it scares them. My daughter has bumps and bruises all over her head from falling, but the ones that bruised she never cried about it was the ones that scared her more that she cried about. Well that and me running to her because it sounded like she hit so hard. And with you having carpet that makes it so much softer for her to land on. I wouldnt worry to much. Always keep and eye on her after a really big fall, and just pray that in time she learns not to be scared of the little falls..good luck..

Answer 4

I think it's probably a little of both. The important thing is, is to stay calm. I've learned from experience whenever my babygirl would fall or hurt herself, she was looking at me for a reaction. Most of the time I would try to smile and reassure her she's okay, They feed off your emotions. Now when she slips and falls on a wet floor, she starts laughing. Very rarely now, unless she is really hurt, she doesn't cry when she gets a bump or falls, she looks at me and smiles and says "I'm alright!" by the way she's almost 3 years old now. Babies are going to get hurt, just don't panic and be calm and reassure them that everything is alright.

Answer 5

Of course it probably hurts a bit but don't worry. That's how they learn, through trial and error. I also think it scares them more when they hit the carpet. When my little ones fall back like that they laugh whether it hurts or not because we always make it kind of like a game so they DON'T get scared.

Answer 6

Well of course it hurts, but not enough to like rush to the hospital, and your boyfriend is right, the scare is worse. The child does not know, nor can she see where she is going, babies are extremely afraid of falling, from birth, that is why they grab at the air if they are not wrapped where they can feel something around them. The scare is worse than the pain with a fall like that, do not worry (easier said than done, huh?) She is going to have more falls that are higher, like when she starts walking---pad the corners of your furniture!! Trust me, it is a godsend, no matter how ugly it makes your furniture look.

Answer 7

Try putting a pillow behind her for when she falls. I actually used my nursing pillow that is shaped like a big "C" - this was great because it protected my son from side falls too. I don't doubt that some falls hurt but I'm pretty sure that it sometimes is just fright and the parents reaction. Try to laugh when she falls - eventually she will learn to only cry for the painful ones and be less scared from each fall.

Answer 8

There is more than one way to be hurt. If the carpet has sufficient padding, it is unlikely that a short fall backward would hurt physically. It's also unlikely that such a short fall would be scary enough to make her cry. If your boyfriend (of any one else) is insensitive and displays little concern when she does hurt herself or needs to be cuddled, she may cry easily because of the emotional hurt. There are a lot of immature adults who will tease children - even babies -when they make little mistakes. Some are born more sensitive than others.

Answer 9

I was worried about this, too. I'm not sure if it hurts or scares them more; it really depends on the hit. I was worried that my son falling and hitting his head constantly (happens more frequently when they start walking) would cause seizures or something bad like that. A doc told me that if it's hard enough to cause a seizure it would happen right then. If the baby hits their head and then gets up in a bit and goes on about their business, they are more than likely fine.

Answer 10

In my opion, I think it scares them more. My daughter fell off the couch once when she was 4 months old when her father was *supposed* to be watching her....and she paused for a second and then let out a wail. I picked her up and as soon as she saw me, she smiled with a big ole' tear running down her cheek, but she didn't cry anymore. So I think the fall just scared them a little...

I mean, it can't hurt worse than being born...OUCH for poor little baby!