Right after we found out that I am pregnant he proposed. I love him very much. We already live together and I know he can take care of me financially, but I don't want him to propose to me because he feels like he needs to. What should I do?
2006-11-06 14:43:08 · 32 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him about this. You have a child on the way, you owe it to that little person to be, to work things out and communicate. Being married will not make things any easier or any harder for that matter.
Just communicate and the right choice will come to both of you.
2006-11-06 15:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by MomOf2Girls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if he didn't want to propose he wouldn't have, since you are already living together. He did the right thing by proposing, and this should be a sign to you that he is not only a very responsible man, but also that he will always do the right thing by you. It doesn't sound like there's really a problem here. At least he proposed.
2006-11-06 20:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Would Talk To Him And Find Out If He Proposed Because He Loves You Or He Proposed Because You Are Pregnant
2006-11-06 14:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Paradise * 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
if you're already living together and you truly love him, then don't make it harder than it has to be. for all intensive purposes you're already together as man and wife, so just do the paperwork, have the ceremony and live happily ever after. don't refuse him because of timing. most likely, when u told him u were pregnant, he immeadiately thought - i've made a family, now i would love to make my family litigimate in the eyes of everyone else. a man that loves you is not going to ask you to marry him unless he wants to be your husband. no matter what the situation is. he could have come to you and asked you to marry him after the baby is born. men have done that thinking that if there is a problem with the pregnancy he'd get out of it and not have to marry the woman. your man said to you that he wants you to be his wife- no strings attached.. he didn't say lets get married if the baby is born and healthy and cute and sweet and everyone agrees that we should. by proposing, he said lets do this for our family. if you love him now, think of how much more you'll love him when the babys born. take a chance, trust that he is being true to his heart and marry him..
2006-11-06 18:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the best advice that I can give you is that you need to tell him how you feel...He probally is excited that you are pregnant and wants to do everything right...Sounds like a good guy..Now days there are very few men that will step up to the plate and take responsibility, I think he really loves you to propose....He didn't have to ya know...Most men still would not propose just cause the woman is pregnant..regardless..but just ait him down and tell him how you feel about it....Congrajulations and Good Luck
2006-11-06 14:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like the man you have is trying to do the right thing, (even if it's in the wrong order) and you just cant seem to under stand or see what type of person he is, most men would have run and yours is trying to build a family with you and you feel the need to ask why? your answer if you feel the love the two of you have for each other should be nothing but YES. start looking into who he is and stop trying to find an door out, if you do need to say no then let it be known and why, if the answer is NO time may help you change the way you feel.
2006-11-06 14:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck and congrats, How long have you dated? I personally was with my guy 4 years before I became pregnant and made it clear to him I personally did not want to get married to him because of the baby. I want to be financially stable and see how we worked as a teem with this new challenge called a baby. Baby's and children change everything you whole life. Life is hard for us juggling around 2!!!! yes now its 2 kids and work. care full about that 2 thing. I think I may never be ready to make that big of a commitment. I would never cheat but marriage is a one shot thing if you understand marriage. Do you think it would stress you out more or less getting married rite now. You got allot on your plate. Relay good luck its your decision he seems like a stand up guy.
2006-11-06 15:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no perfect way at this point, given the timing of events. However, it is too bad when marriage comes about because of certain conditions, rather than from the heart at the right time. You need to open up the lines of communication 100% or more now and get everything on the table. And at the end of the day, you must do what your heart feels.
2006-11-06 14:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain that to him. Express to him how you are feeling. Let him know that you dont want him to feel pressured into marrying you just because you are pregnant. Maybe he thinks that now you are pregnant, that he is ready to take that step towards marriage. You never know, he might have done it because he really does love you and want to marry you. But just to make sure, i would definatly talk things over with him, after all he is going to be a daddy! Good luck in everything you do.
2006-11-06 14:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your not feeling it, don't say yes. If you really wanted to marry him you would just say yes, because that's how you feel. If you think he is only proposing because your pregnant, then you may be right, but if you love him, just wait it out and the opportunity will probably present itself again, and you may feel differently and say YES!
2006-11-06 15:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by corinasanc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋