2006-11-06 14:33:27 · 27 answers · asked by WANSOMFUN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's going to take abit to get over it...even if you were the one to leave. 29 years is al life time almost..you need to take it slow...day by day..just getting use to being on your own is going to be hard.I'm not sure if you left beacuse of money..or other issues..but which ever, it will all tAKe quite awhile to become natural for you to do own youe own. Keep your close family and friends near by for emotional help when you need. What a brave person to leave after so long..good luck in all!
2006-11-06 15:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was tight with his money, chances are he was tight with his heart.
I think perhaps that's the real reason you left, because his meanness extended to his emotions.
So, how do you get over it?
First of all, find a way of supporting yourself, which will give you a sense of value and self-worth. There is nothing like bringing home your own paycheck and running your own financial affairs, whether there is a man in your life or not. (Assuming you don't work).
Second, allow yourself some time to heal and put everything about the relationship into it's rightful place. A lot of things go on in a marriage of 29 years which you need to deal with and sort out.
Third, his character flaws are not your problem. They never were. You were young when you met him and didn't know any better.
Finally, this is a great opportunity for you to live your life exactly as you have secretly wanted to all these years. It will take time, but eventually you will do it. Make new friends, join organisations. Get out there, socialise, have fun.
Most importantly, value yourself highly. Assess any man that you are interested in. You know the signs of meanness, you know the results.
You deserve good things. Believe it. Good luck.
2006-11-07 01:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay... I think the people saying to get back with your husband think you mean he was rich, which isn't the case.
If I'm not mistaken, I think you're trying to say that your husband was a tight wad and he wouldn't really buy anything or do anything that cost much money.
If you're not happy in a relationship, get out of it. That's what I've always said, at least.
With a guy like that, you should already be over it, unless you're having second thoughts. After 29 years, I'd imagine you'd grown quite dependant on him.
My advice? Get a good job, get an apartment on your own, and start living the life that you want to live with as many luxury possessions that you want, and find somebody that will work with your needs!
2006-11-07 01:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just left my husband after 29 years he was very tight with money went without how can i get over this?
huh?
2006-11-06 22:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do you want to get over? The fact that he was tight with money or the fact that you left him? If it is because you left him, then there is nothing to that. You must have thought about what you were doing before you did it so just go out there and enjoy life.
If his meanness was a problem, then there is nothing you can do about that. you are now over that.
However, my suggestion to you is to go out and have fun as much as you can.
2006-11-06 22:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIya, sounds like it was more than just money after 29 years, but i am sure you had many reasons and that sounds like the straw that broke the camel's back. if you are happy to get on your life then grab the bull by the horns and enjoy your freedom,marriage is not meant to be opppressive. you can get over it, write down your goals on paper and set about trying to achieve them and in that process, who knows another realtionship could be waiting for you, that you might actually enjoy
peace and good luck
2006-11-06 22:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you left him after 29 years bc he was tight? Is that all? You couldn't work it out, or make your own spending money? Wow, sounds like you just wanted out!
2006-11-06 22:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blow all the cash you just got out of him and become homeless. Did you not work for 29 years straight. Did you miss any meals?
Exactly why did you break up? Because he saved money or because you did not contribute to the relationship?
2006-11-06 22:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hells bells, girl. You JUST got over it. What you are having problems with is your new found freedom. You just don't know what to do with it. Think, you have your own money and can live life your own way. If that doesn't help, go after his money. I am guessing that you are close to 50 and that ain't a bad time in life to start over. Just don't hook up with another loooooooser!
2006-11-06 22:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by GORDO BLAKHART 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be here giving the answers to the Young, not asking for it. i see a lot of info you left out that needs to be put out as to getting a true answer from us. as far as getting over it you took the biggest steep and now you asking yourself what do i do now? you need to think of what you have done and report it back to us. you need no answer from us for your not sure of what your asking for... sorry for being so up front and to the point but seeing people that did something and then ask why is only trying to find an answer from us to help then get over the feeling of guilt of doing wrong...
2006-11-06 22:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋