i caught a registration for adult friend finder in his e-mail- he said it was old, but it said welcome aaron, and later there was an e-mail from someone saying- hey there lovely, I saw your profile and I'm coming down to your city this weekend, should we meet? you won;t be dissapointed. with an e-mail address attached to write back, he said it was spam and he gets them all the time.
we have a 3 month old son. I love him so much, but I've been hurt enough. what do you think? what should I do?
2006-11-06 14:25:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
I saw the same thing on my email - its just spam. Seriously.
If he has nothing to hide - ask him if he would mind you emailing the 'woman' back and see what happens?
2006-11-06 22:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your baby you and your man need to come to an understanding....Either trust one another, or dont be together. If you are unable to trust him, then you will only hurt yourself, and your child.....It wont help to get advice online about if he is cheating...you must come to that on your own. Talk to him about your insecurities, because communication and honesty are the only way things can work. If there have been mistakes in the past you must decide if you can forgive and move past them....it does no good to harbor resentment....
First priority should be the baby....the child needs a mom and a dad....you two need to be adults and find a way to be there for your son whether it is apart or together.
EDIT:
Please dont listen to igivesin.....that is a bunch of garbage and no self-respecting woman would follow her trashy advice. All men do not look...there are men who are devoted to their families. I know many of them.....and for those who have cheated there is still hope of redemption for them. I have seen people change into new and better people with just a little love and concern. Pornography is the leading cause of infedility, and you should not engage in it as a way of fixing this relationship....it will only cause problems. This woman is one who thrives on destroying family values by catering to the needs of men who are lost or confused. Her work will only lead men and women further down the road of dispair.
The best thing you two could do is attend therapy...visit with a pastor or liscensed therapist about the issues in the relationship. You will only grow closer and stronger by working at this relationship.......cheating is not a given....all men are not pigs as igivesin is implying....
2006-11-06 22:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by LothLorien 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Errrm... It is spam. I get those as well.
Sadly, if you don't trust him, then you don't really love him. You really should get out and find something to keep your mind occupied instead of worrying about what he's doing.
If you feel like you have to keep a lease on him, then surely you'll drive him away. Your present state isn't good for your son either. If you're unhappy, he'll grow up unhappy. Do something for yourself and stop worrying about your husband.
If you have the desire to suffocate him, you'll only drive him away. Perhaps suggest marriage counselling. If he doesn't go, at least go by yourself. It'll give you a better understanding of yourself and why you feel the need to "watch over him". :-( Take care of you, cos no one else will. Hugs xoxo :x
2006-11-07 06:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young, don't settle. You have a child but it is not the best to stay with someone for that reason.
If you have to ask yourself all these questions, this is not the man for you. Deny this all you want, and you will see in the end.
You can do much better and a man should put you above all others and all things. If you let him know you are insecure, he should be sitting there right in front of you proving that you are wrong and proving his love.
You can raise your child and still be friends, but get out while you can before he hurts you so bad it will be way harder to come up from.
2006-11-06 22:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by AveGirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm kinda in the same situation except the email didnt mention coming to the neighborhood.I dont have a three mth old son either but I did just get married in August.I wish I could afford a P.I.
2006-11-06 22:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by yesmaam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
E-mail should be the one place you can have some privacy. If you don't have trust-you have no foundation for a lasting relationship. Be the best person you can be for youreself and you will attract others like you. That also works in reverse.
2006-11-06 22:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by C. Rosa R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was spam.. BUT, He still could be cheating on the site. How long has he had his current E-mail address? In other words, He had to have activated AFF with that E-mail. In order to get the spam, He's a member of the site. It's a VERY NASTY site. Filled with fat nasty people. DIRTY!
2006-11-06 22:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by CHUCK 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you in the Dallas area? If so, call Cheaters. You could be on TV! But yes, that doesn't sound too good. I think he's cheating or going to cheat.
2006-11-06 22:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by BA92107 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its definitely possible. go back to his email and change the email to go to your address. email back to see if its for real and offer a meeting. check it out. dont sit there and get played. you need to protect yourself and your baby. good luck!
2006-11-06 22:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by Starry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's cheating. Don't be a doormat. Have some self respect and move on.
2006-11-06 22:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by Taffi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋