i caught a registration for adult friend finder in his e-mail- he said it was old, but it said welcome aaron, and later there was an e-mail from someone saying- hey there lovely, I saw your profile and I'm coming down to your city this weekend, should we meet? you won;t be dissapointed. with an e-mail address attached to write back, he said it was spam and he gets them all the time.
we have a 3 month old son. I love him so much, but I've been hurt enough. what do you think? what should I do?
2006-11-06 14:08:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Most definitely cheating (and lying)...wake up girl!
2006-11-06 14:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be sure, don't call on it.
If he really isn't cheating on you, he might feel a bit mistrusted. Also the fact you were going through his e-mail might feel like an invasion of privacy. Also, note that the e-mail indicates no previous relationship.
If he is cheating on you however, your relationship may be ruined soon.
So you can either
A: Try to get him on your side
Do this by indirectly or directly discouraging him.
or
B: decide he's not worth it and dump it.
Do this by spying on him and seeing how he acts. If he really is innocent, and finds out, your relationship may be over. If he isn't, let him have it.
2006-11-06 22:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mike B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It MAY have been spam, but I'd keep an eye on it. "Hey there 'lovely'" sounds like the person is speaking to a woman. I'm female and occasionally get 'peni5 enlargement' spam. Don't panic just yet. Keep watching. I'd tell him to delete that adult finder cr@p too! If it's that old, why is he holding on to it?
2006-11-06 22:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take his word on it for the moment- I get weird e-mails too that I really don't know where they came from. Do you know if his profile is still on the website? Tell him that your profile can be removed from any website and see what he says about it. We are very emotional after having a baby and you are probably worrying for nothing.
2006-11-06 22:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know what to tell you. One thing you have to realize... the Internet is a terrible web to get caught up in. I always find my husband going to XXX sites, and he always watches porn (in private). I look at the "cookies", and that tells me every site that's visited on the computer. He hasn't denied the fact, but I can't seem to get him to stop. He doesn't interact with anyone on line (to my knowledge). I know how he feels about me, he wouldn't go that far and jeopardize our marriage. If he ever did, he KNOWS I would leave! You should let him know you will not tolerate cheating, and if he ever does, and you find out... you are outta there, and he will have to see his son on occasions. That will wake him up, and get the truth out! Good luck!
2006-11-06 22:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in doubt call the reality TV program Cheaters they will investigate and follow him around until they find out the truth, it's free and you might get paid if you agree to appear on national TV
2006-11-06 22:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mac F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop spying on him, and show him how much you love him. If still he is cheating, you can't stop him anyway. But I am very sure, spying makes things worse and trust makes things always better.
2006-11-06 22:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by DTS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull the plug out and cancel the subscription.
That should do it.
Oh, and ask him to take you out somewhere special -just the two of you.
Then you'll really know
2006-11-06 22:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by Up your Maslow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a piece of junk mail....keep an eye on him all weekend and see what he does....
2006-11-06 22:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sammyleggs222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to cheat he will do it and deny it. When you suspect it is getting hot with them, hire a PI and get evidence. If it is true, you may use the evidence to divorce him.
2006-11-08 03:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look to see if you can find a date on the eamil you read... maybe it was along time ago.. but maybe it was from yesterday? try to find any kind of date anywhere on his profile.... dont accuse before you know for sure...
2006-11-06 22:11:38 · answer #11 · answered by BRYAN B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋