Long story short- left first love at 19 because we were too young and family did not like him. For the past 18 years been trying to convince myself that I don't have feelings for him. Now, married with children, I accidentally find him since we now live in same state, and I realize I am still in love with him. I offer to have an affair, he acts flatters but declines as he is married with children. I am usually quite proud and can move on easily, but I have been in a tailspin for the past month over this. I think about him all the time and have never felt like this before. Its an effort to keep myself together, I am crying in the shower. Is this because my pride is hurt that he turned me down (which would be very Leo of me), or is it because I never let myself grieve this love and now I am, or am I really still in love and need to get over it? He is a Gemini.
2006-11-06 14:01:56 · 10 answers · asked by I'm Trying 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
you may not like this so much but since i am a leo i understand what's going on here quite well. the first thing i'll tell you is that leo is ruled by the heart, and once someone has touched this heart..they are eternally part of it. leo is apt to miss old flames more than almost any other zodiac sign...once they emotionally invest in a person they put in quite alot..especially in terms of loyalty..for this, they expect this loyalty to be returned and to always be there. So that aspect weighs in there...leo never loves half way..but instead with their whole heart. Thus making it hard to completely emotionally detatch from a past mate.
HOWEVER, and more IMPORTANTLY...leo's pride is just as big as it's heart which means...if you put yourself on the line (vulnerably) offering to commit yourself to an affair..and you got turned down...chances are it made for quite a bit of a dent on that leo ego. If there's one thing a leo cant get over..it's rejection in any way, shape, or form. Leo thinks highly of itself and when it's worth is questioned..the leo automatically and obsessively tries to win the lover back. It just wouldnt sit well with royalty to have it's subjects be insolent...So this guy really injured your pride, and now you NEED to win him over just so you know you have the ability too...because trust me it'll kill you to not know. Then the answer is...yeah, love is a part of it..but the most important feature here was the rejection...that's what really got you...now, you'll be after him until submits to you. I'd tell you right now to get over it but chances are you aren't going to fully because he's messed you two huge parts of you (Heart) and (Ego) the lion's achilles heels. What might help though is if you talk to him and try to see if he still cared about you in some way (tell him you respect his loyalty to his family..and devotion to his wife..and that you wouldn't really expect him to drop everything..but tell him you need to know part of him still cares (that will be the only way to pacify the rejection) then ask him to still be around ..and that you felt you guys had a good emotional connection and that you wantr to keep in your life ..even if just friends (that way hopefully you heart will be somewhat pacified...because if you love him you'll want him to be in any part of your life..and it wont matter how...and if you love him you must also be unself and wish him true happiness with his wife..even if its hard on you..not what you want to hear..i know). Part of you will always want to win him back until you get him back completely..but out of moral purposes you have you take what you can get with this one..with the things i said before... it's not an easy thing..and ive been in a similar situation. A good way to move on is to find another challenge or semingly hopeless cause..however make sure it's not severly as hopeless as the one you're in right now...nothing fulfills a leo more than a chase..so go out and get em'
cheers.
2006-11-06 14:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by luckmess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't mean you have to be with this man. Real love means loving him enough to want his happiness in his life even if it isn't with you. What it sounds like you have is regret and infatuation. I don't think it has anything to do with you being a Leo.
I think you are right that you never grieved this love. Now is a good time to start as the attachment you have for his is not based on the reality of the situation, but upon a memory from 18 years ago.
Best of luck!
2006-11-06 14:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by taotemu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Leo. Never found a female Leo I could tolorate. Usually would start off well, then go to h*ll. Leos are too passionate and stubborn at times. Like you mentioned w/ the "butting heads" thing. So, you got it. You get along really well at times because you're astrology is similar, but when the planets, moons, and stars collide...LOOK-OUT!!!!
2016-03-19 04:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am close to your age and I have had a similar situation. My first love and started dating in 8th grade and we dated for 4 years on and off. I hooked up with him after my 1st divorce and it was like we never split. He lost it to me in his mid 20's. We continued to date, but I could not forsee staying in that area , so I moved. To come back 4 months later pregnant by another guy and he would not talk to me. I got married to my current husband when my son was 4 and I still could not get this guy out of mind. There will ALWAYS be a spot in your heart for that person, but it is unrealistically out of reach! If you are meant to be together fate will take it's course. Don't cheat on your current family because of a past love that is hard to shake. It's not worth it.
2006-11-06 17:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by STACEE K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, it's not because you're a leo. Horoscopes don't mean anything. Firsy loves hold special places in all our hearts. I think you need to work on accepting that he has moved on, even if you haven't. Good luck to you,
Kathe
2006-11-06 14:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kathe H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I never got over my first love, an Aries. It took years to be able to admit it. Just when we met again after many years and made plans to get together, I found out he had died. I cried for two days afetr I found out. That was 1990. I still miss him, too. He's still not out of my heart.
2006-11-06 15:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by curious cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were you thinking? You are lucky he turned you down. What a mess that would have been - emotionally hurting other people... and children! It would not have ended up good. You'd be much worse off.
Thank your lucky stars for that close call and move on.
2006-11-07 10:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by mecasa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have also asked the same question 2 times, and haven't gotten a good answer
2016-08-23 10:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I've no idea about this
2016-08-08 18:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
horoscope signs mean nothing
2006-11-06 14:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by Foxglove 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋