There was the perfect chick. i knew her a few years back, and she moved. she came back and hung out with me for like 6 months. we were literally best friends. i was with her every day, i know everything about her. we starting going out a few weeks back. everyone used to joke, even her, about us getting married... way far off tho. anyways, she said shes been having bad thoughts of us breaking up and not talking, so she wanted to be really good friends so we couldnt break up...i thought about it and said no. all or nothing. she got really, really mad. a few days later i left town without telling anyone, and just got back. i talked to her, and she said shes too busy, and we are just friends. she swore she still likes me like that, and said shed get pissed if i dated another chick.
im so confused and i want to hate her. what to do?
2006-11-06 14:00:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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the only reason i dont think she put me on the friends list is that she literally broke me and this other chick up, by any means neccesary, to go out with me. she called me crying. she also has a lot going on, some bad news that could lead to her moving away again
2006-11-06 14:10:15 · update #1
She doesn't sound like the perfect chick, she sounds like a continuous headache!
With the "perfect chick" your relationship will come easily and naturally and not be filled with petty drama.
Good luck
2006-11-06 14:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be frustrated, too, over the mixed messages she's sending. She wanted to date you, then she just wants to be friends, but then she'd be upset if you're with someone else. She cannot have her cake and eat it too. If she wants to be just friends, then she has to let you go as a boyfriend and let you move on. Her refusal to do that is just her playing mind games with you...and that's not being a friend. It's hard to stand up to friends, but sometimes to have to do it. Tell her that you're frustrated with these mixed messages she's sending...and tell her to make up her mind. Don't give her "forever" to make it up, tell her you want to know by such and such a date...if she can't make up her mind, you're moving on. But she needs to choose a path and stick with it. If she wants to be your girlfriend, she can't play these "I just want to be friends" game. If she wants to be your friend, she can't play this "you can't date anyone" game. Friendships and relationships don't work that way.
And hon, don't allow her to have so much control over your life that she would "destroy" it. You are your own person...live it up!
2006-11-06 22:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mary K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. She put you on the friend list. That is the kiss of death for any other type of relationship with a woman.
2006-11-06 22:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by troythom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound to me like she's playing head games with you. My advice would be to forget about her and move on.
2006-11-06 22:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by faeriemagik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a control freak. Run Forrest...run!
2006-11-06 22:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you just accept her friendship? Hating her will only destroy you.
2006-11-06 22:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i dont know
2006-11-06 22:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋