I work within arms distance of this co-worker and her & her daughters b/f and their antics of fighting & the daughter getting arrested 4 shoplifting are driving me insane. We work in a fairly small town, and I really like the co-worker as a friend too, BUT this daughter age 22 is effecting her health and her work, we work in a fast paced enviroment & I am picking up the slack but feel I am being a bad friend too, because I am so tired of telling her what to do to correct her situation, she ASKS for advice but doesnt take it, its very frustrating so the combination of picking up her work slack as a co-worker & watching her daughter causing this mother a break down is just too much DRAMA. I don't want to hurt her feelings. What can I do ?
2006-11-06 13:56:29 · 9 answers · asked by bex920 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The only thing you can really do is say something like.....Look, you keep asking me what you should do and you already know how I feel about this and what my answer is So unless you take my advice please don't ask me what I think anymore. It's killing me to watch your daughter put you through this.
That should work.
2006-11-06 14:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by cindy_cardine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just really thrive on drama! It's like, if there is no drama in their life, they don't know what to do, therefore, they create drama. I had a friend like this. For several years, she had a new problem every week! She would always say that nothing was ever her fault. It was either her husband, her boss, the kids teacher or principal, Her mom, etc... She never took responsibility!
Don't get me wrong, she was a very nice person, and lots of fun to hang out with, if she wasn't freaking out about all the "stress" in her life.
If her job is being affected, your boss will probably notice very soon. I wouldn't pick up the slack for her anymore. It sounds like she'll push as far as you let her. You're best bet is to stay away as much as possible. I know it's easier said than done. My "friend" finally moved across the country. My life has gotten a lot simpler!
Good luck. It is a hard spot to be in. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-11-06 14:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a friend Then you should be able to talk to her about this problem & if she gets mad over it all you know she was not a true friend to you Make her see your point of view And she might be the one feeling bad for letting you down Not the other way around Best of luck
2006-11-06 14:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself. You can not fix the situation, but it's your life and one must protect their own sanity. Sounds like maybe this woman thrives on drama, and it will be to her early demise. One of the points of a highly effective person is to eliminate 'waste' in your life. Stress is a waste, so eliminate the stress. When she brings her drama to her, just politely tell her, "I'm sorry, but I really have a basket of my own problems I'm dealing with right now" if she tries to ask you about them, simply explain "I'm not really comfortable sharing that with you...sorry."
Just keep saying that...busy yourself..work is about work anyway.
2006-11-06 14:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her you don't mean any disrespect but , your tired of hearing her issues. It would be different if she actually listened. Let her know that she has to leave her personal life at home because its hindering the work environment. If it keeps up. Take it to your manager.
2006-11-06 14:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might ask her if she is extremely conscious of her habit. enable her comprehend which you think of she is a advantageous guy or woman and you have no longer any reason to dislike her or communicate negitively approximately her. Mabe she is basically a splash insecure. tell her that as quickly as she continuously is going by out the place of work being suspicious of others, and accusing them it makes human beings no longer % to be round her. Its very unattractive. and it places human beings off. i might have this communicate along with her privately, and be variety approximately it. i think of she would be in a position to offer up as quickly as she feels extra guard.
2016-10-21 09:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by harte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are sorry, but you can't offer any more insight into the situation than you have all ready. Suggest she throw herself into her work.
2006-11-06 13:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to dump the job and this "friend", their chaos is becoming yours. These are dysfunctional people and if you are smart, you will run.
2006-11-06 13:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be happy that isnt you. its healthier. If you can fix it, dont worry, you got business handled; if you cant fix it, dont worry, theres nothing you can do about it. either way, stop worrying!
2006-11-06 14:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by undrgrndhiphop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋