me and my couin were intament and i am now pregnat he wants me to get rid of the kid and i want to keep it?

Question

i want to keep the baby another thing is that it could be my boyfriends baby how do i deside what to do when it could be ether persons baby they both know im pregnat and my boyfriend is willing to keep and help provide for it what should i do

Answer 1

You need to do a paternity test now because you shouldn't keep the baby if it is your cousins, the DNA is to close and the baby will have major problems, if not physical then mental. This is why inbred is not good, blood is blood and you shouldn't mess with DNA like that, if its your boyfriends baby then keep it as you know the baby wont be affected by a cross DNA. Think about your baby first not anybody else, once you know who's baby it is then you can decide what to do but I really don't recommend having a baby if its conceived by a family member that's just wrong and the only person who will suffer is the baby.

Answer 2

It is up to you, however if you have the baby you have to be a parent for it, and that is not an easy task at all.
Does your boyfriend know that it might not be his, by the way? It is not fare for the baby and him if he doesn't know, and if you keep the baby as his because he is willing to support. I think, you have to know that you may well end up as a single parent. I am not sure if your boyfriend can still support you and the baby knowing it is/may not his own.
And how about your cousin? Is he definitely not going to support you if you keep it, even if it is/can be his? If so, then you really can't count on him to help you.
Even if the baby is your cousins, it doesn't mean that it will definitely have problems. I know someone who's parents are cousins, and he is absolutely normal.
Having a termination or putting it up for adoption is a very difficult thing, but sometimes it is a good way out of a bad situation. So I think you have to think about that. If you can't support the baby, then it will end up paying the price of your action after it's born. But if you are sure that you will be able to raise the baby even if it can be so hard, then have it. And be a responsible mother.
Think about what you want, and what you can. Then make a choice.
Good luck to you.

Answer 3

1st of all you should not of had sex with anyone apart from your boyfriend.
Ever heard of Karma?

You should read this....
I found it on the web (UK)

Question

I hope you can help. I am currently in a relationship with my cousin (my dad’s brother's son) and we are planning to get married.

The problem is my mum and dad are also cousins on the same side of the family. We are worried that when it comes to having children there will be problems. Can you help, as I don’t know where else to turn?

Answer

I am quite amazed by your email. But I take it that you are genuinely serious about this relationship? You see, if your mum and dad are cousins - as well as you and your boyfriend - I'm afraid that the amount of in breeding that is involved here is breathtaking.

I've just made myself a little sketch of your family tree, and it's clear that you and your boyfriend share two grandparents and four great-grandparents. And you yourself have only got SIX great-grandparents - instead of the usual EIGHT.

Such a marriage would be legal, but I'm afraid that the chance of having abnormal babies would be quite high.

My advice is that you should go to talk things over with a doctor or a counsellor - preferably at the Brook Advisory Service for Young People. You can find out about the branch nearest to you by ringing their helpline, which is: 08000 185023.

And at all costs, please do not get pregnant in the meantime.

Best wishes,

Yours sincerely

Dr David Delvin, GP


So abort that child, when you grow up you can try again! Is my true advice.

Answer 4

First, you need help. Go for some counciling. The baby, if it's your cousins has a very high risk of being born with many problems that I know you aren't going to be able to deal with. Anything from blindness to physical deformaties and mental retardation or all of the above. If it's your boyfriends, how old is he? Is he working and can he pay for this child for the next 18 yrs. Probably not. The first difficult thing that happens he'll dump you and the baby and you'll be there holding the baby. Pretty picture isn't it? Get that in your minds eye and wake up from that little fantasy world you are living in. Where is your mom and dad? Dare I ask? What do they think or are you so mature and grown up that they can't tell you what to do...probably never did in the first place. Your A** needs to be busted and the next 9 mos. need to be spent in parenting classes and you need to volunteer or better yet get a job working with the mentally and physically handicapped in your area. You need a lot of things that are too late now but, some are not. That boyfriend and cousin need to be turned in to social services and the local police for any illegal actions that may have taken place, depending on age. They are juvenile delinquents at best. Go to Social services and ask for some counceling for yourself at the least and those boys may be playing daddy right now but all they want is your body and the check you'll get from us taxpayers for that baby when it's born and the attention. They need to be on chain gang instead of a gang bang. You need to grow up and stop asking stupid questions after doing stupid things. Also, using spell check might improve your spelling....still going to school? That's a dumb question huh?

Answer 5

It IS legal to get involved with a cousin but there could be medical problems with the baby. You DO need a DNA test and also to be more closely monitored to make sure there are no serious problems with the baby before it is born. If the baby is not your cousin's, stay away from him. I take it you're young; eg school age...you could press charges against your cousin for taking advantage of you but then again it takes two....I suggest you see a counsellor about everything as you clearly have some issues.

Answer 6

First of all, WHY YOUR COUSIN?!?!?!? Secondly, if there is a blood relation, and I'm assuming there is, then there could be birth defects. I'm not quite sure what the possibilities are in this case, but there is a possibility. In my opinion, your cousin's got the right idea. There could be serious problems and complications with this baby. Why should a child have to suffer with birth defects because of you and your cousin's incestuous behavior? If you don't choose to have an abortion, you may want to consider adoption. How will you tell your child that his cousin is also his daddy? Yes, I know that it could also be your boyfriend's baby, but if you are not mature enough to NOT sleep with your cousin, are you mature enough to raise a BABY?

Answer 7

I have been given pregnant on the age of sixteen and placed my son for adoption. many all human beings is ignorant of their wordings on a thank you to handle adoption... you arent giving up or removing a infant... you're giving them a existence, an possibility to be raised in a family individuals. I easily have an open adoption with my son's family individuals and get to work out him each and all of the time. It somewhat relies upon on how the adoptive parents sense approximately having an open adoption... some % semi-open, ei: assembly in public places, emailing, letters.... Or completely open ei: going to each and each others properties, seeing your baby on a favourite foundation... perchance locate out what faith she is and if there is an organization she would desire to that suits her religious selection or if she isn't religious locate an organization that suits her desires/alternatives. If she is making plans on aborting... properly thats her own selection, yet there are videos available of unquestionably abortions occurring and would sway her from doing it... stable success.

Answer 8

Tell your parents about it. You need to get a paternity test done. it's important to know the truth about who the father is. it will be better if it is your boyfriend rather than your cousin. Try and get the test done and the results back before you tell your family.Best of luck with the pregnancy and any decisions you may have ahead of you.

Answer 9

You have to be very young to pursue a relationship with a relative. Anyways whether or not you decide to keep your baby is your decision, but I think you should get a paternity test as soon as possible. That way you know for sure who the father of the baby is and also this will help you prepare for whatever the future holds for you, your baby, cousin and boyfriend. Also trying and get yourself some counseling to see why you chose to have relations with your cousin. You are in my prayers sweetie.

Answer 10

Morally people will say having a intermate relationship with a cousin is wrong .But Medically and legally in the western world this is allowed and should have no affect on the baby as others suggest .But as I see it you have 2 problems .1 Why cheat on your boyfriend only you can answer that .2.Which one is the father that can only be tested by DNA testing but all invloved have to agree to have this done or at least one of the males if you have only had sex with them if there has been others then they may need to be tested also ..I would pray that it is your boyfriends at least you say he will accept this and help you .You made 1 mistake against your boyfriend learn this lesson well and never cheat on him or any future boyfriend .We all make mistakes in various ways but to keep repeating them is not the way life is ment to be we must learn by them !!!!!!!!Good luck from john.