What should I do? I love my dad, and he's a wonderful father. I love watching sports with him and my brother, and talking about things with him, and I couldn't ask for a better father. But when he's in a bad mood, it's really scary. He gets in problems with my mom sometimes, and he will say "I'm leaving". I don't know what to do in that situation. When I say to him "I don't like it when you say you're leaving", he always tells me he won't leave, but when he's mad, it seems like he really will. One time, he was really mad at my mom for a very minor thing (she wore a jacket with a hood to temple, and he didn't think it was appropriate), so he broke 4 chairs. It scared me, and I was distracted from school for about the rest of the month. When he was breaking the chairs, I ran up to my room and started crying, and I didn't know if he would hurt me or my mom. I really don't like it when he gets mad, and it really disturbs me. I've talking to my mom about it and she tells me to ingore it.
2006-11-06 13:54:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
But that's really hard for me to do. I don't want them to get divorced, and sometimes he says he will. That really, really makes me feel upset. What should I do? Thanks!
2006-11-06 13:54:57 · update #1
By the way, I'm a 13 year old boy, in 8th grade.
2006-11-06 13:55:17 · update #2
stocks4allseasons: I appreciate your answer, but it's not like he needs anger management. It's just I don't want him to leave or get divorced, or have a bad relationship with my mom.
2006-11-06 14:03:19 · update #3
Sounds like your dad needs therapy for Anger Management. It can turn into hostility against you and your family eventually. Instead of chairs one day, it might be your mom.
He needs help.
2006-11-06 14:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father was the same way. He and my mom got divorced. You know what happend then? My dad stopped having anger issues, and my mom turned into a complete shithead.
It's usually better in a situation like this for people to get divorced.
2006-11-06 22:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Supernova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad was like that. There wasnt really anything I could do. When I was your age I got the courage to call the police and they came and talked to him. It ended up getting so bad that he eventally hit my mom and had to get drug out of our house by 5 police men. I know how you feel. Theres really not much that can be done until someone gets hurt.
2006-11-06 22:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by jessica_peare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow well first you need to pray about it. Even if you are not a christian just try it. Try to catch your dad when he is in a good mood, and talk to him about it. Tell him that it bothers you. Talking it over will always help things. If those don't work continue to pray but also get involved in a help group. It sounds cheezy i know but it could help. I will pray for you and your family.
2006-11-06 22:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by *PEACE BEGINS WITH A SMILE* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry my friend...but he does need anger management. eventually, he won't be as good a father to you or your brother. talk to him about it, PLEASE before it gets worse. i've been through the same thing and thank god we finally got him to counseling, because the lives of everyone in our family are much better now...that was a time in my life that i don't miss. please get him counseling. PLEASE. even if you don't think he needs it, he DOES. you won't understand until afterward, maybe, but it's true. please listen to me.
if you get him counseling, he will be calm enough and rational enough to stop threatening to leave, because he'll never get angry enough to think that that's what he wants. believe me.
2006-11-06 22:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by fireflower413 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋