Ok I will try to make it short...I was adopted as an infant and never met or saw a picture of my birthmother. She found me in September on MySpace, go figure. I am 22 now with 3 kids. I told her that I woul dbe having another baby (this would be the 3rd, I had her in Sept) in a month or so, (my original due date was October 4). Should I have been expecting a card or somethin in the mail? Because I did and never got one. I was so disappointed. My birthmother and I had been speaking everyday through email and had one 2 hour conversation over the phone. Since I gave birth Sept 19, she hasn't called or emailed me. I'm not emailing her because she sought me out she should maintain contact in my opinion. Plus I sent the last email. Basically am I expecting too much? She seemed excited to find me and told me all about her life and how her and her family want to meet me and mine and stuff. Please give your opinions.
2006-11-06 13:48:14 · 6 answers · asked by mizzladyariel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok...I have a mother. I don't need another one. Yes she gave birth to me but that is it. It isn't about who emailed first if you read what I said, it is about the point that she sought me out. And I'm sure nothing is wrong with her and nothing happened to her because her sons (my brothers I guess) talk to me on Myspace every so often and havn't said anything about her. I'm just not trying to be pressing the issue and like someone has said, get my feelings hurt.
2006-11-06 14:15:33 · update #1
Do not expect anything from her she is the one who is losing out. Maybe she's not as ready as she thought she was. She still may contact you but be careful so not to get your feelings hurt. Good luck I hope you find what you are looking for.
2006-11-06 13:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe with the birth of your child it brings back memories of her giving you up. Maybe she is afraid of unanswered questions that might be brought up. I wouldn't expect anything from her. She may never speak to you again. If it ends up that way at least you have talked to her. Just go on with your life and if she makes contact with you again just take it as it comes. Congrats on your new baby. Good Luck
2006-11-06 14:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it should really matter who emails first. If you really want your relationship to last or to go further, don't be afraid to initiate stuff with your birthmother. It's not like a friend or something that has no history with your or "connection" that's deep if you know what I mean. She's still your mother and maybe you're not as close but still don't be afriad to talk to her.
2006-11-06 13:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you are expecting ALOT. Relationships take 2 people putting in the effort. Perhaps something has happened to her, God forbid. I think you should try contacting her by phone to see if she is alright and to question if she would like to continue ya'lls relationship. Don't play games. Be honest and up front with your feelings and thoughts.
2006-11-06 13:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she may feel guilty for you were an infant when it happened that she gave you up for adoption. maybe you should tell her that you forgive her for what happened? have you done that?
2006-11-06 13:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
why are u thinking so much.she has a different world ,different people,different opinions.maybe shes confused.but shes ur mother she loves u .and dont u want ur mother?
2006-11-06 14:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by varun k 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋