Okay, so i am bi, but no one know i am, except my really close friend Kate. I mean, only her, not even my parents know. so yeah, anyway. today in gym class, well in the locker room actually, we were all talking and someone said they are going to go streaking in the locker room jokingly and we all looked up and i was like, "woah." so then thats what triggered the conversation between me and my friend (Sheila) and she asked me if i was bi, i just kinda laughed hesitantly and she said, "well, are you? im serious." i automatically said no, but i felt guilty after saying no, and she told me why she asked, and it was because a lot of people already think im lesbian. so, she figured she would ask me. i really want to tell them all, but i dont want there to be any commotion because i would be in a very awkward position then. but i need suggestions on what i should do here, should i tell them or ride it out until i graduate?? i dont like keeping secrets from people. please help.
2006-11-06 13:35:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't feel pressured to tell anyone just yet. It's a big step but, when/if you do you will know who your "real friends" are.
Wait until you are ready and feel comfortable with coming "out". Remember to love who you are and then you can love others.
2006-11-06 14:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by faeriemagik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your are not BI, maybe you only have an identity problem. It could be related to some incident in your life you don't even admit to yourself. Opening up to someone like Sheila may not be a good idea. It may be better for the school environment to remain in question. I am not saying be ashamed of who you are but be sure who you are before you make the choice. You don't really know how everyone will react and you may not be ready for that. You need to concentrate on your education first and foremost now....and think about this, are you being totally honest with yourself? Hmmm sometimes the questions we ask must first be answered by ourselves.
2006-11-07 21:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should approach Sheila, and apologize for lying, then tell her the truth. Just tell her that you're not that comfortable about your sexuality yet. Just open up to her. It feels very rewarding once you do this. If things pan out well, start choosing the people you wanna open up to. Once you get the hang of it, the truth will flow out of you without any trouble. Best of luck!
2006-11-06 21:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well everyones situation at school is very different i know alot of people who have "come out of the closet" some of them were accepted for who they were and not treated any differently and others were thrown to the wolves so to speak, it depends on how you feel about your friends/people you are in school with. I do know one more thing if i were you i would act just as who you really are in side and ride it out untill graduation it will really save you trouble in the long run.
2006-11-06 21:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi storm, don't take offense, but i hope that you think and rethink about your 'sexual preference'. know that a God exists and he created male for female and vise-versa. God LOVES YOU. Hormones and teenage years make life VERY difficult, but know that there is nothing better than a male and female couple---that is the way God created us---and now that God never has and never will make a mistake--he has repented of creating , but has never made a mistake on anything. Look it up--Genesis 3 Please, look it up...you will be glad! God Bless
2006-11-06 21:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by madai_17 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋