i have restraining order against me from my husbands exwife?

Question

she keeps sending him voice mails on my cell acct and leaving emails in his email acct. Can I get arrested for replying to the emails at my husbands request? How do i get this ***** to stop contacting my husband?

Answer 1

You didn't say what the restraining order restrains you from doing. But presumably its for harrassing his ex-wife. I would strongly advise you not to reply to the emails and the voice mails on the cell phone. What you should do is save them and take them to court and get a restraining order against her to stop them. They would also serve as evidence that she is attempting to contact you, which should serve to dissolve her restraining order. After all, presumably she got the order against you to keep you from contacting her, it is illogical from that standpoint for her to be initiating any contact with you.

--Lawyer here.

Answer 2

What is wrong with your Husband???Why is HE allowing this?
Sounds like your 1st line of business is with him.
Careful with the restraining order...it may very well so NO contact which would mean no phone calls either.
I agree with Jim.Change those phone numbers promptly.If you're Hubby whines about it then you know he is behind it and then you need to put your foots down and tell him the #'s get changed or he can find the door.
As to the e-mails I wouldn't mess with blocking them or anything else.
Change the e-mail address entirely,so your Husband has a new one...then YOU change the password on his old one to something only you will know,that way even he cannot access it after the change.
Again if Hubby whines about it..stick to your guns and tell him the change or the door.
Good Luck and I imagine if you do these things I have suggested you will find out exactly where your Hubby's love really is.

Answer 3

Yes you can be subjected to arrest if you violate the terms of a restraining order.So do not contact this woman in any way shape or form.or at any ones request.You should contact the local police department .explain to them .What is going on? How to put a stop to it? She puts a restraining order against you.She is calling your cell phone , leaving voice messages for your husband. She may well be in violation of the restraining order she had put into place.You need to report her to the local police department let them handle it . You might want to think about changing your cell phone number and email accounts

Answer 4

Well you husband can always stop using the same email account or he can block her emails(thats simple) as far as her leaving voice mail get the numbers changed. If they have children and she need to contact him give her the kids cell phone number only. If she is calling the cell phone she is giving you a record that you can use in court if this matter gets to that point. Ignore her she had her time with your husband things didnt work for them now she needs to move on. Sometime its hard to let go and if he is a good man and it her fault I am sure she knows that dating in 06 can be a pain.

Answer 5

Change your phone numbers and make sure they are unpublished. It's a small price to pay but it is worth it. You can call your local phone carrier and have a block placed on her number. But it would be better to just change the number.

Either block the ex from the email account(s) you have OR get new accounts. Instead of responding why not just hit the delete key.

Lastly, don't get in between what is going on with your husband and his ex. IF he has something to say to her then he needs to be the one to say it not you.

The only way you can be arrested is if you threaten to do physical harm to her.

The ex never would have placed a restraining order on you if you weren't doing your husband's dirty work. He needs to man up and stop hiding behind you.

Stay out of it. I know it is stressful for you BUT it really is your husband's problem and he needs to deal with it.

Answer 6

Excuse me, but I think YOUR problem is with your husband, or possibly the marriage.

If I were married to him I would tell him to do his own dirty work when he asked me to reply to her emails (of course, I would be nice to him because this is probably very hard, but I would NOT get sucked into this role, it is a sure road to misery). However, there is nothing to stop the two of you from setting up a special email account that she thinks is "his" that you can both check, so if he wants you to reply, you can and she'll think it's from him (this is from a much-maligned ex-wife, by the way, who knows that her ex's wife ghost-writes much of his email because she's so much more literate than he is! I always know when he's doing his own writing and when she's doing it. I do not complain about this, by the way.)

One big problem I think that new wives have in these situations is not getting to know the situation really well, practically and pragmatically, before committing to the man. It's all well and good for 22-year-old blushing brides to rush into first marriages... you do so with a divorced man at your peril! Marriage is a business arrangement, and becomes more so after the first year. The second is realizing that in as much as no one is ever going to change a man by marrying him, you sure as hell aren't going to change his ex or his relationship with her. Remarriage is SO much a what-u-c-is-what-u-get. If you don't want a guy with an ex wife--and all that might include--then for heavens sake find someone else, they're out there. Alternatively, marry him and develop a hobby, because this former family is going to take up some of his time once in a while. And if she's a real *itch, then it might take up a lot of time. But are you sure you want to marry someone who created that for himself. Because that is what happened.... he CREATED IT FOR HIMSELF.

HE should be the one who tells anyone and everyone who he doesn't want to contact him to stop. He's still his own person, even if married.

Why does it seem like so many times men can't say what they really mean to a woman they don't want to be with anymore, so they get another woman, then SHE wants to be the one to say it. This is very dysfunctional. No one should take on these roles and then complain about them. If a man wants to be done with an ex, he needs to make it his business to be done with her. If he can't, then how can he commit to a new person, because he will be sucking her into this horrible situation? That's irresponsible. Women shouldn't be fighting with women about this stuff, even when one is crazy. It's just wrong.

Answer 7

You need to tell your husband that he needs to stop reading those voice mails and his emails from her. I would print out those emails and keep those text messages just in case she accuses you of harrassing her again. She should only keep in contact with your husband only if they have kids and something is wrong with one of the children. You need to talk to your husband and tell him how much it bothers you that she is text messaging and email him. He can change his phone number on his cell phone and he can get another email account if this is bothering him as well.

Answer 8

each restraining order has many different stipulations to them, read it and see if you may or may not have any contact with her, most restraining order are meant to keep two apart, and never have anything to do with contacting each other unless she has gone for the hole thing, and i must ask why has she been the one that has it on you? are you leaving something out of this question? and why? remember to read it and keep your head thinking prior to acting.
if your husband really wants her to stop e-mailing him he can block all her e-mails and for the cell phone issue, you may want to check and see if she is calling him or both are calling each other? and are there any kids from the past to have this happening? if so your husband does have to talk to her from time to time about his kids, so do your home work prior to starting anything.

Answer 9

hello,
well a restraining order works both ways....if she put one on you then she also has to go by what it says also.....so if she is emailing your husband that is still contact with you, you are considered 1 in the courts and i would take her to court for harrasment.....also don't stoop to her level and be childish...thats what she wants from you....if you show her who the bigger person is then maybe she will quit....but personaly if she has a child by him then there realy isn't any thing that you can do.....because he has to have contact with the childs mother...and i know that is hard to restrain your self from hurting her for messing with your husband....but if he had any sence he wouldn't have contact with her....he needs to change his email address and also phone number so that away you know if he gave it to her...it is a 2 way street.....but you need to be the bigger person and stop the childs play.....and if she keeps up then i would go to the courts and tell them and you could turn the tables on her for harrassing you.....good luck....:)

Answer 10

change your phone numbers and your e-mail it may be a hassel but then she can not send you anything or you can copy the e-mails and take the restraining order to the local police and show them that she is violating her own restraining order get a lawyer and press charges there is alot you can do and the best part you can side swipe her and she won't know what hit her.