they it's too late for us. I'm 29 and he's 27. Are they right? If not, what I must say to stop them?
thanks a lot.
2006-11-06 13:11:57 · 47 answers · asked by lounalove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, tell your husband to tell them to cut it out. Second, it's not too late. I'm 32 trying to get preggers right now. You haven't gone through your changes yet, so don't worry about it.
2006-11-06 13:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's society due to technology, life styles etc... It is common for people to have their first child in their 30's and 40's.
Just keep in mind that the older you get the more risk there may be however, that isn't a guarantee of no risk at a younger age.
Just ignore the family. If they make a remark don't respond just get up and leave the room and the house if necessary. They will learn to shut up about it. When the time is right it will happen.
I had marital relations with my husband for 6 years w/o using any birth control and I didn't get pregnant until that 6th year. My mother was with my father for 7 years before I was conceived.
I have given birth to 3 children in total and have been married for 20 years. Go and see your ob/gyn if you are concerned. Also, make your husband start wearing boxer shorts. The other kinds of underwear make the testicles create too much heat which can often kill viable sperm. Good Luck!
2006-11-06 15:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay if I am understanding you correctly; your in-laws find it funny that you have no children yet.
They don't know anything. They may be judging how long it is taking the two of you to get pregnant by how long it took the others in the family to get pregnant.
You both are still young enough to have a child or children. It will happen. It's not really anybody's business if you are trying or not trying. Honestly, there isn't much you can say to get them to stop. They will stop if they choose to.
2006-11-06 13:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband are a team and it is nobody's business if you have kids or not. The two of you need to confront his family and let them know you don't appreciate their negative remarks and they need to stop this behavior right now. Loving families do not deliberately hurt one another and these people are being extremely cruel to both you and your husband.
By the way, NO it is not too late for you to have kids.
2006-11-06 13:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation. There are so many other parts to a relationship then just children, and those need to be nurtured/developed before you decide to bring children into the equation. You are certainly not too old or anything like that. Focus on what's right for you and your husband, and don't listen to them.
2006-11-07 09:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by Rayslittlegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are saying it is too late for you because they had their children very young and are upset that you haven't. I would say to them, this is our lives and we are going to live it how we want. We are old enough now to raise our children with a little bit of level head and I think that matters more then age does. Another thing if you are paying attention to what people think of you now your going to have a heck of a time when you are pregnant and raising your children. If you want to be adults and start having children then act like it and do things your way and take their advise and that's it, do what you and your husband or fiance think is best for your lives and your children not what they think is best. Good luck hun your going to need it.
2006-11-06 13:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie nobody defines your life but god and you. It's not to late to have children at your age. You simple tell them in a respectable way that at this point you and your husband are not ready for a child. When you are ready then you will bless them with a grandchild. It sounds to me that they may be a little jealous that or not jealous or insecure that they have not yet gotten any grand children but either way it go. That decision is between your husband and yourself don't to much worry about his family
2006-11-06 13:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Missy_Eye's 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LoL tell them to go screw themselves. As long as your still menstrating, ITS NOT TOO LATE!! maybe in their opinion having kids at 30 is too old, but its not their lives. Maybe you dont want kids, maybe you wanna make sure your financially comfortable so you can show your kids the good life. Whats wrong with that???
I think you should just tell them your reasons for not having kids, and tell them they must accept it, or else dont say anything about the subject at all. They should respect that... unles their jerks
2006-11-06 13:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they are just a**holes or jealous of you. Trust me, you are not too old. I am 28 and just about to have a baby in a month. I would still like another one and if I am too old that is too bad. Next time they hand out some snide comment, I would just say you are enjoying your life together for now and you WILL have kids one day. If they say you are too old, tell them it is none of their business and walk away. They sound like idiots, so in the meantime avoid them. Good luck!!
2006-11-06 14:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There wrong. Thats the perfect age to have a kid because when the child is of age to move out you will be close or possibly ready to retiring so the kid will have to move out. People shouldn't have a kid until 30 anyway because thats when you are truley an adult and capable of giving them a proper childhood
2006-11-06 13:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by doshaSmoke 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋