My sister is pregnant and is hiding it from my parents! should i tell?

Question

she is 17. and told me not to tell anyone. should i?

Answer 1

This isn't something that she should be hiding but you should also try and help her tell your parents. They can help her and may even surprise her with the way they react. I know when I got pregnant my parents shocked me when I told them. They were very understanding. But she needs to also see a doctor because there are many dangers that she may not be aware of by not seeing a doctor and getting regular checkups and you parents could help her with that.

Answer 2

This is very hard to answer, you kinda have to go with your gut on this one. Your sister is almost an adult, so she's not really young and in need of so much help, but she does have to tell sometime. If you think your parents might react in a harmful way, then definitely not. You should talk to your sister, explain that this is a hard secret to keep.Try to find out way she is not telling, and go from there. You have to do what you think is best. You need to decide if your sister's trust or possibly her health is more important. Complications could arise at any point during a pregnancy, and I don't know how old you are, but in that case a responsible adult would need to know the circumstances.

Answer 3

It depends on how your parents will react. If you parents are the kind of psychos that will treat your sister like a whore or kick her out of the house for being pregnant, then no don't tell your parents right away. It also depends on whether or not your sister is going to keep the pregnancy. If your sister is going to have an abortion, there is no need to tell your parents and doing so would be wrong.

What you need to do is take your sister to a planned parenthood office or localteen sexual health clinic. Do NOT take her to an emergancy pregnancy clinic or anything that sounds like that. The people there are horrible monsters that do more damage than good.

At Planned Parenthood your sister can talk to a counsellor and discuss her options and what to do with this pregnancy. She can get advice on if/when/how to tell your parents as well as a referal to a social worker, prenatal care clinic, abortion center (if that specific PP doesn't do abortions) or adoption agency.

I wish her luck!

Answer 4

The fact that your sister told you, means that she trusts you. At 17, she is old enough to decide whether or not she wants to tell your parents. Not to say that she shouldn't tell them, because she should. She needs to get the appropriate care and guidance to help both her and the baby. If she is not in any immediate danger, harm, or having any complications, why don't you try and convince her to tell your parents, instead of telling them yourself? Tell her that she needs pre-natal care, and she needs to see the Dr. so that she can be healthy for she and the baby. Tell her that she isn't the first teen to get pregnant, and that you are there for her to support her through whatever happens. At the very least, convince her to see a Dr.Just do your best to support her through this time, but don't betray her trust...unless she is having complications. I'm sure she will tell your parents when she is feeling well enough about it, and thinks that the time is right. They are going to find out sooner or later, whether she tells them or not.

Answer 5

I don't think you should say anything because its not your decision to tell your parents as she will have to tell them soon and if you say something you will be breaking your sisters trust and she will be in a vulnerable state at the moment and she doesn't need to be betrayed from her sister.
Your sister will tell her parents in her own way and when she is ready, the best thing for you to do is support you sister by encouraging her to tell your parents. Best wishes.

Answer 6

WOW! That's a toughie! I think it's a personal decison of her's. The truth will come out sooner or later. I know in the beginning of my pregnancy I didn't want to tell, but that was just in fear of mis-carrying. Didn't want to spread the news until I knew for sure it was a healthy pregnancy. Maybe give her some more time. They will find out.

Answer 7

I would not tell if I thought my parents would throw her out or hurt her physically. However if she is just scared of disappointing them and you know she is not getting prenatal care or making plans for the future for her child, you need to step up and tell your parents what is going on in confidence. They can respect your secret and just talk to her without betraying that you confided in them.

Answer 8

You shouldn't tell them without giving her the chance to first. Let her know that you are concerned for her and her child and that if she doesn't tell them by a centain date, you will. Offer to hold her hand when she tells them if she wants some support to be there.

Answer 9

I would consider talking to you parents or at least advising her to tell them. She's going to need them soon to help her get through this difficult time. And she really needs to get to a dr. Pregnancy isn't easy and she isn't going to want to do this alone. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 10

this is her decision, not yours to make for her. Try to see it from her point of view, she is lost, scared and has a trillion things to process, try being her friend and not her judge and jury right now. Your parents will understand that you were just trying to be there for your sister and if they dont, convince them. Good luck to you both