they look like the happiest couple, highschool sweethearts and are now around their 30's and i saw him yesterday in front of a mcdonalds making out with another women. should i tell her? they have 3 kids!
2006-11-06 12:47:51 · 31 answers · asked by Christina G. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay out of it and don't be the nosey neighbor. If u are hell bent on letting her know, maybe u can snap some pics of them when u see them together and put them in her mailbox or slip them under her door.
2006-11-06 12:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here's the real issue. if you tell her it may back fire on you. He might come with some type of story that she will fall for, if she doesn't fall for it and still stays she won't want you around her because you'll be reminder of what he did. You know he did it and that will bring it back up for her. Of course there's the possiblity of her not believing you. Your best chance would be to get actually proof of it and give it to her. Tell her you did it so he couldn't lie about it. I do think you should tell her. What if it was you in her shoes? Someone else knew your husband was cheating on you, wouldn't you want to know? I suggest you be there for her, be her support. Help through it if you can. No matter what she chooses.
2006-11-06 13:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by trustnoone_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way he is acting he wants to get caught. The only thing I worry about is STDs and other unwanted contractions that an affair could bring...This is hard. I kind of feel like if you saw someone standing in the middle of the road with their back to the on coming traffic and a truck in barreling toward them do you warn them or tlet them get hit? They could survive....
Have you though about an anonomous note? You may want to consider the fact the wife may know....
2006-11-06 13:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by Making Them Listen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. It's hard because you don't want to break their family up but on the other hand you don't want to see his wife get hurt. I think you should confront him about it and tell him that if it doesn't end then you will have to tell his wife. This way you are giving him an altermative. Leave his Girlfriend and keep his family or ruin his whole life. Well it's upto you. What ever you decide I'm sure will be the right thing.
2006-11-06 12:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by rach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. What if you expose it and that was the only time he ever cheated? Maybe right after that he realized he loved his wife and realized that she was too special for him to do it again. Some women can appreciate the truth and some women will hate you for telling it. Ultimately the choice is yours, but those are scary waters to tread.
2006-11-06 12:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by heartbroken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should just mind your own business these are just neighbors of yours. If you tell her then that can start trouble with you as a neighbor and you really do not want that. You want to live in your home happy.
2006-11-06 16:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that most people would say to mind your own business but the truth is, he made it your business when he got sloppy with his secret!! its not fair for his wife to be in the dark about her marriage,he shouldn't be able to keep such a secret...she is completely deceived. if she were his girlfriend then maybe ignore it but they took vows in front of God and he should be made to honor them or be exposed!! if it were my husband that someone else saw, i could only pray that someone would let me know what was going on. she at least deserve the choice to stay with him or not....if you dont want them to know that its you exposing him,send her a letter by mail describing what you saw ,when you saw it ,describe the lady...that way when she confront him with it she at least have some details to back up what she say...
everyone is telling you to mind you own business as if you were snooping around & searching for this...this information was thrown at you!!!everyone keeps saying that she will eventually find out because he's so public with it...EXACTLY!!!! because he is so public & sloppy with his secret,he must want to get caught & you saw him,this is her chance to find out...again,dont feel bad about the information that he let you in on,you just allow his wife to be in on it too....do it anonomysly ...however you choose to do it...JUST TELL HER!!!!!
2006-11-06 13:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to be the bad guy, say nothing to the wife.
Go to the husband & tell him what you saw. Tell him he needs to tell his wife before someone else does. If you saw him, so did others. He is putting his wifes & childrens well-being in jeopardy
2006-11-06 12:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a cheater needs to be caught,no matter how just make sure you are right first,when a cheater cheats they not only hurt their spouse but there kids to.
2006-11-06 12:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it may be very difficult, I think it would be best to try and find a way to tell her. I can't imagine anyone not wanting to know what the truth really is.
2006-11-06 12:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋