Is this a bad counselor?

Question

If your counselor encourages you lightly to explore your curiosity of homosexual or heterosexual sex it's ok to watch movies about that.

Or if you have a crush on the same sex or married man it's safe as long as you never act on it?

What you say?

Answer 1

I think your counselor is being fair. He/She has an open mind. It cannot be denied that homosexuality does exist in today's society. The counselor is just encouraging you to have an open mind on these issues. He/She is not necessarily encouraging you to delve into homosexuality, or into adultery. Nor is the counselor condemning these as well. By keeping this balance, the counselor is just implying that these issues are indeed present, and that people should not judge anyone at all. For we were never given the right to judge others. That right belongs to a higher power.

Answer 2

The counselor is just encouraging you to explore yourself. Throughout your entire life you will learn so much about yourself, and the best way to do that is soul searching. It may sound a bit passe, but the more you learn about yourself, the stronger you are. Also, don't run on society's judgment. It's ok to be gay, bi, straight, whatever. As long as you're happy and safe.

Answer 3

What's the big deal about watching movies, even adult films, if that's what you want to do? I'm assuming you're an adult. If not, this advice doesn't apply.

Personally, I think it's always wrong to become involved with someone who is married. I'd say your counselor has a very weak ethical code. For that reason, yes. I think she is not a good counselor.

Answer 4

I would ask why it is that you need permission from your counselor to think for yourself. I have trained many students within my Order, some of them facing the same issues that you are. It is not the place, even of the Master, to change who someone is on a fundamental level, only to help the Student to accept themselves for who and what they are.

May The Light Shine Upon You

Reverend Father Ezwik

Answer 5

I believe your counselor is encouraging you to get to know yourself better.

It's difficult to know whether your counselor is suggesting appropriate things without knowing your age and the issues you brought to therapy. If you are in therapy to try explore your sexual orientation issues, then these are reasonable thoughts. And having crushes on someone is a normal part of sexuality, particularly among the young.

Regarding the movies, I think I would watch a movie like "Brokeback Mountain," "Making Love," "Maurice," "The Mudge Boy," or "Adam and Steve" before I'd turn to some hard-core pornography. That way you can see if you can identify with the characters who are coming to grips with their sexuality before subjecting yourself to the (sometimes overstimulating) world of pornography.

Answer 6

hmm could be odd, depends on the type of movies and other factors

if it's an educational film I guess it's OK.

if it's porn or something then I would say that is one creepy counselor.

as for the crush on the married guy, I think it's normal to have crushes even with people we know we can't have.

long as you don't act on it, it's OK.

Answer 7

actually sounds like one way of finding out if you are attracted to the same sex. Crushes are ok, but with a married guy, don't act on it.

Answer 8

I say that I would look for a new counselor. These things and thoughts, I believe will eventually make you act on them

Answer 9

You need to find yourself. There isn't anything lightly about having sex...your either gay, bi, or straight....either way, it's going to be o.k., it's who you are...go explore.

Answer 10

Sounds wrong to me.