I know that if I didn't have a son I would probably be divorced by now. It is so hard for me to share custody that it makes me want to stay married. It is also best economically for us so I can stay at home with him.
2006-11-06 12:35:55 · 17 answers · asked by golden2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I DID stay unhappily married , for the kids' sake. I did it for a long time, but I could not stand the thought of not being there for them.Their Mother was not the most stable person, so it was necessary for me to be there for them until they got older, and could take care of themselves. I don't regret doing it for my kids, but I sometimes hate my best days are behind me now. If I had it to do over however, I would do it again....for them!
2006-11-06 12:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew I was going to be unhappily married, I wouldn't be married in the first place. You should know what you want before you got married to the guy, if you're unhappy, you probably married for all the wrong reasons.
But IF my marriage is unhappy, I think I would stay just for the kids' sake. And would try to work on the marriage to make the marriage work.
2006-11-06 12:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have experienced this problem before with friends of our family. They had three children, and the only thing stopping them from a divorce was the kids. Might I add that each were having affairs and pretty much just lived in the same house as each other. I believe that if you are going through a similar situation to get out. Don't base it on what your children want you to do, because in the end, you are the parent and you should make the final decision. In the case that you do get a divorce, don't make the kids the victims of a nasty divorce. Try and make it so that they aren't in the middle. I hope I helped. Good luck
2016-05-22 05:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed married "for the kids sake" and when I finally did leave when they were in high school, they both said that they wished it had happened sooner. In the end everyone was much happier. It depends on whether you can stay in a loveless marriage. What kind of message will that send your son. Especially if he sees no affection between his parents. Sometimes it is better for the child to end it. Is it worth it? Thats what you need to ask yourself. Good Luck.
2006-11-06 12:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Debcee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal advice is if you are not happy. Talk about it with your husband. If the decision is to divorce, go with it. I tried to keep a failing marriage together for too long. I thought he would change and 6 years later, it never did. Now I am divorcing him and I feel a lot better about life. I only wish I did it sooner. But I honestly tried---- Really think about your inner happiness and the love you have for your husband (if it is still there).
Best of luck!
2006-11-06 12:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did for a few years. It was terrible. I finally had to have a divorce.
Also, my parents stayed married for 57 years because they did not want us kids to suffer financially. They fought constantly and put us kids in the middle. We would have been a lot better off if our parents had divorced and we were not exposed the the daily routine of fights.
2006-11-06 12:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you do not stay married for the kids. If you don't love this person your relationship will not be true. You will be teaching your child that your relationship is the norm rather than bringing him up in a healthy, happy home.
2006-11-06 12:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by KaLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you teaching your son by staying? That compromising happiness for fear of a little financial discomfort is okay? Do you really think he won't notice that you have no intimacy with your spouse?
2006-11-06 12:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by frogsandweeniedogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah alot of the couples out there .. stat togther 4 the sake of their kids .. no1 wants their kids to grow up with emptiness ..... ur notthe first .. if you love your son ... he should grow in a nice/warm carrying family that has both parents to look after him..... a step dad would never love the kid as much as his real father does .. and vice versa.
2006-11-06 12:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and father divorced a month beofre I was born. I thank god for that everyday. I would rahter have been born to a single mother than to and unhappy mother and father
2006-11-06 12:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by kinkykiki2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋