(or so to speak) I'm kinda shy and I want to be more outgoing and fun and talkative. I'm tired of being the quiet one who never gets invited anywhere. I want more friends and I want to go out and have fun. I don't necessarily want to be "popular" but I definitely want to not be afraid of people so much. How can I become more outspoken? Sometimes I feel like if I be myself that people won't like me so I just go along with whoever I'm with. How can I be myself with no worries and still have friends?!
2006-11-06 12:32:21 · 10 answers · asked by cjb 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just be yourself and be outgoing u have to be loud for people to hear u and just talk more to people and show them that ur a funny person and ur fun to hang out with and just dont be nervous because then you'll never learn so be loud and have fun!!
2006-11-06 12:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by srh077 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I am shy-just like you.
Like you, I wanna be more outgoing and i want people to see that there is actually a person behind this shy girl. I can't give you a lot of tips cuz I'm still new at trying to be more outgoing, but what I do is talk instead of using body language. If I am asked a question I say "yes" or "no" instead of nodding or shaking my head. If I know the answer in class I raise my hand. If I feel as if something isn't right, I speak up and let others know how i feel. If I feel as if somebody is harassing me I try my hardest to be firm and say, "Leave me alone", instead of being shy and not saying anything. If I see some people I wanna get to know in some of my classes I try to talk to them.
Don't be afraid to be you. Don't be afraid of what people will think of you. Don't be afraid to allow people into your life. We all let each other down some time. Allow people to come into your life and let them get to know you. Rejection is difficult, I would know. But if it happens, don't dwell on it. Move on and meet more people.
It's hard I know, but just be YOU and nobody else. Don't be scared. I know you can do it!!
2006-11-06 12:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change anything. My suggestion would be to start by speaking at people in the hallway (assuming you are still in high school, since as you get older it doesn't matter as much). Just say whats up or hi with a smile. People wil begin to remember you as the girl that says hi. Then just start sitting where you want at lunch not always with the same crowd. You have to speak your mind and always say what you are thinking. People respect that and will want to be around you more. Do not change your personality just amplify it a little.
2006-11-06 12:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by mizzladyariel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well let your inner livelyness come out! Have fun in what you do. be whacky and talk to more people. most people when they are shy usually think the person they talk to or try to meet will reject them or something like that and it is not true. there are people out there that are looking for more friends as well so go for it! Talk to more people and say your interests and maybe you have something in common, and say " tal to you later, or see you next time" or invite them to your house, (once they know you enough).
Soon people will know you more and see your inner self =)!
2006-11-06 12:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok, I felt the same way. As I grew up more (my answers might not work for you because you might be older/younger) I got more confident in myself. I really didn't care what people thought about me, and I was just myself. Luckily, everyything worked out and I overcame my shyness. Hope everything works out.
2006-11-06 12:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, cool is about compromise, school the only place where it matters.
However Say what you think, speak up, start with hanging with some people who you like, and who accept you as you are.
2006-11-06 12:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by Abbasangel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was just like you. Then I realized that if you just be youself then people will ove you for who you are and not for who you want to be. If you're quiet by nature, then you'll be cool within your group of friends. Just be yourself.
2006-11-06 12:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Crouton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want friends be your self and if they like you they are actual friends. And dont keep anything in let out your feelings I dont mean stop and cry I mean if you have something to say say it dont keep it in.
2006-11-06 13:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by MRG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just know that u are a cool person and dont worry i have the same problem so u may not be able to overcome it
2006-11-06 12:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by donielle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey being cool?? well i havent read ur whole further question........i ve just read one above line...how can i b cool?
Well according to me .....u shud first try to interact wid others....try to make new frendz......B alwayz happy n make others happy toooo!
wht elz i can say.....just interact .......!
2006-11-06 18:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Neha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋