I am getting married in a few weeks. We are both virgins, but have been together for 3 years. Of course we have been with each other, just not actually had sex. I'm scared to death that it will hurt, but of course I'm going to have sex with my husband. Also, do I need to go to the gyno? I've never had to before because I've never been sexually active. I'm also just almost 21 and my doctor doesn't require that kind of exam until a patient turns 21. Graphic descriptions are welcome. I just need some help.
2006-11-06 12:31:21 · 11 answers · asked by steph 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Do what feels comfortable to you and him. Take your time and work up to it. He should spend time with foreplay so you will be wet and lubricated and/or use a lubricating jelly such as KY Jelly. He should work in slowly the first time. It may or may not seem a little uncomfortable, but if you relax your muscles in that area, it will be easier.
If your hymen has not broken, since you are a virgin, there is likely to be a little blood. Do not worry about that. It's normal for a virgin because of the hymen breaking. Sometimes it is broken anyway because of sports, etc. and you won't bleed.
Another young gal once asked me what it would be like. I told her that I had seen how her intended looked at her and he adored her. I knew that he would be gentle and loving and she would be just fine. When she came back from the honeymoon, we had a little reception for them. She took me aside and said, "You know that little conversation we had?" I said, "Yes...." And she gave me the hand gesture that meant everything was wonderful, with a big smile on her face and a wink.
If your intended loves you, it will be just fine. Relax and enjoy becoming one.
Best Wishes for your future as man and wife. God Bless!
Sue
2006-11-06 12:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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I am getting married in a few weeks. We are both virgins, but have been together for 3 years. Of course we have been with each other, just not actually had sex. I'm scared to death that it will hurt, but of course I'm going to have sex with my husband. Also, do I need to go to the gyno?...
2015-08-07 01:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would not hurt as bad as you might imagine, just a little uncomfortable/uneasiness the first few times. Make sure you both are relax, don't rush, get him to performs lot of foreplay, do not let him 'enter' until you are really truly aroused[since he is a virgin too, he would never going to last long, so penetration is the last thing], stop him if you feels hurt but get him to continue caressing, touching, licking you then let him in again, slowly n gently. The caress/touch/lick should not be stop all this while in order for you to feels better n ignore the 'hurt'. Everybody has to go through the first time hence no worry at all, just relax n enjoy ! Position wise, if you lie down with knee slightly up[or on his hip] facing him would make his 'entrance' easier. Keep on whispering to him how you loves him or n get him to talks to you during love making would definitely help to improve the 'feeling' !
2006-11-06 17:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by ng 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My goodness don't wotty. If you have been together all this time you will be eager to have sex on your wedding night and everything will go smoothly. You may have some discomfort if you have not broken the hymen yet but it shouldn't hurt. Relax and enjoy each other.
2006-11-06 12:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It should not hurt. But it would be best to have a safe lubricant like YK Jelly. Otherwise him forcing himself into you and you tightening your muscles can cause tears. You dont want that. Make sure he is hard enough first and there is plenty of foreplay. Him on top is better the first time.
Please dont be scared, it is natural as God intended.
2006-11-06 12:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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A guy always cums fast when its their first time. and especially if he's been waiting for a long time. Guys are erect at least 5 times a day so what I would do is some foreplay until he ejaculates or the both of you for that matter its not fair that he has orgasms and you don't so get him to do you first and then once you finish he will be more than ready for his orgasm. then use a condom because that cuts down the sensations for him if he feels he is about to come prematurely then tell him to come out and do some more foreplay on you so he has time to calm down. the condom should work but if you want a baby tell him to take the condom of before ejaculation and then finish in you. the longer you wait to make him come with foreplay the quiker it will be because he has to get it out of him.
He also does need time because you are the only one he has been with so once he gets used to it, you can really enjoy it once he gets his techniques down pat. Tell him what you like. Get some books and videos also until you both are experienced. Or you could even have a quickie in the morning, when you get home and then at night. he will diffently last longer because his mind has been free twice already. You get on top of him and you control the situation. Also my boyfriend tells me that he thinks about none sexual things for a while to help control him, tell him to think about a sport or something that calms him. If that doesn't work then just do IT over until you are satisfied
2017-02-16 13:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-27 16:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by bakos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may hurt a little bit, but don't worry. Just make sure you are relaxed, otherwise it won't be pleasurable. Goodluck and have fun :)
2006-11-06 15:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by kasey06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
him on top that way you can relax your muscles either way you will enjoy it if he last long enough for you too, him being that old and a virgin he is gonna explode like a volcano extremely quick so dont get disapointed
2006-11-06 12:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by danny20_2002us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be uncomfortable the first time
he need to be gentle with you
no need to go to gyn if you are not having problems
but you do need to go to the Dr to get on the pill
unless you want to get pregnant right away
2006-11-06 12:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋