how do you stop missing some one who is dead?

Answer 1

Mmm...this is a hard one. If it is someone you love, that's gonna take ages. Everytime you do something you 2 used to do, you'll think of that person.
So the only way to avoid that is: to try something completely new. But that's only avoiding the problem. If you really miss that person, just remember his/her memories will carry on in you. He/She will always be part of you. you'll always miss them unless you're heartless.
Just remember this, if that person is still alive, he/she doesn't want you to be sad and depress, and remember to talk to your friends about it.

Hope that helps

Answer 2

You don't stop missing them. As time goes by, depending on who and the circumstances and age you may have less thoughts about them and are able to not always think of them but, it never goes away completly. If it's a mom or dad and they were old and sick it's a little easier in the sense that their suffering is over and you have that to ease some of the hurt. If it's a young person and it was unexpected it will take lots longer and may take years. The thing is to not let it control your life. No matter who it is they would not want you to keep dwelling to the point that you forget to live for yourself. They would tell you to go on because life is too short, take it from them and do all you can do while you still can. So, just don't try to get over it. Let yourself heal and take the time you need. Maybe not talking about the person all the time because others may react different and not want to hear it all the time, we are all different.It migh upset some people so they don't want to be reminded. so, don't force your remorse on them. Just take the time you need for your own healing...not others. Good luck and lots of love your way.

Answer 3

You don't. I lost my fiancee about 11 years ago (he was 28), and I lost my Dad 3 years ago. You NEVER stop missing them, and there will be times when you think "Oh, I must tell so and so, such and such", and then you remember you can't anymore. The pain becomes more bearable eventually, but the "missing" never does. We just adjust over time in order to cope better with it. You will find that 3, 10 or 15 years from now, you may hear a song, or see a place, or see someone, and all the sadness and loss comes back all over again. Be strong. I promise it gets easier to cope with in time. Of course it helps if you have a partner that understands - that will also help with the healing process.

Answer 4

Personally, I don't think that you ever do. I find it helps to make some time to be alone, light a candle and talk to the person you are missing. Just to get things off your chest and tell them all your news and how much you miss them and hope they are happy wherever they are. It doesn't take very long and you will feel so much better afterwards. Believe that you will see them again in the after-life and keep them alive in your thoughts and your heart until you eventually join them oneday. Not sure it will help, but it definitely eases a lot of the pain for me!

Answer 5

I think that it is very difficult if not impossible to stop missing a departed loved one. My wife died last year, we had been together since we were 15, I am now almost 52, I feel as bad now, if not worse, as when she first died. I talk to her everyday & her photo is the last thing I see at night & the first thing I see in the morning. What helps me is remembering all the wonderful, loving times that we had together, our 4 wonderful children & the thought that this beautiful, caring person chose me to spend her life with. Try to spend time with family & friends, talk & laugh about the things you did together, remember the good times & try to get on with your life. Like me you will probably have bad days & days that arent so bad, just try to make good use of the days that arent so bad. Try to keep smiling. God Bless from a fellow sufferer.

Answer 6

The grieving procedure is a strange one., you never stop missing someone who has passed, it just gets easier as time goes on.,

keeping someones memory alive isnt a bad thing and by doing this u have 2 remember the happy times.

it will get easier

i'm clairvoyant so dont be afraid to talk to the person u have lost as they will always be listening.

or when i found out a close freind had passed and i wasnt told i wrote her a letter and took it to her grave. she then was able to make contact and she is ok now.

hope this helps xxx

Answer 7

You don't need to stop missing them, whoever it was, touched your life in some way and shouldn't ever be "unmissed". Grieving for them is what will lessen through time, but that person has left a unique void in your life, celebrate this fact. Take comfort in your memories and if it helps, talk to them, after all we have no idea if they can hear us or not, so whats to lose? My heart goes out to you and hope that you can find some peace of mind.

Answer 8

You never will. When someone dies they instantly get elevated to sainthood in your mind. Everyone is right about time helping to slightly blur it at the edges but thats all it does.
I have the anniversaries of my sons birth and death coming up at the end of this month. That is the time I allow myself to wallow in it. Poor little thing, he was only two. I'll never stop missing him and wondering what he'd be like now at the age of fourteen. I feel for you, there are no answers.

Answer 9

My own personal belief is that when someone passes over, it's only the physical body that dies ... the soul lives on.

I find it helps to continue talking to that person as though they were still here. My belief is that they will be returning at some point in the future, though they won't recall being who they are now (or were when they were alive). It might sound strange, but that's how I believe the concept of soulmates originates ... how you find someone that you have an extreme affinity with ... as though you've known them all your life. (It may be that you've known them in a previous existence.)

I lost my own mother when I was 12 (I'm now 48) and still talk to her. I don't get a direct response, obviously, but on nights when I do speak to her, I dream of her. Maybe that's her way of passing messages back to me. I also talk with a close friend who passed over in 2000 that I loved very much. (Not in the sexual sense of the word, but as a kindred spirit.) She, too, communicates with me through my dreams. I know this may sound as though I'm a bit loopy, but I believe she also visited me twice when I was in hospital, seriously ill. She thanked me for visiting her when she was so ill, and said that she'd be with me while I was. I gained immense reassurance from that. It confirmed my belief that there's more to existence than the life(s) that we spend here.

I would advise that you remember the good times you had together, rather than dwell on his/her passing. Gain some comfort from the time you spent together as being good times for both of you.

May Angels watch over you (said by a non-Christian).

Answer 10

Well would you really want to stop missing them? My father died just over a year ago, and i know from experience it is a terrible grief and of course the grief does lessen in a way, though sometimes it re-emerges and you feel pain and loss more acutely. But i dont want to stop missing him. I wish you well.