getting a restraining order please lend some advice?

Question

i go tomorrow to get the restraining order on my husband hes verbally abusive to me and our 17 month old son.
i just want to know a few things before i go tomorrow

the lady said i go talk to the lawyer tomorrow and then they submit the order to the court tomorrow. but when i asked when will my husband be served they said they dont know??

well see i have to leave myhouse because i cant be here when my husband gets it i know he will flip out on me.

\has anyone ever got one before? if so how long after it went to the courts did the person get it?

Answer 1

My sister got a temporary restraining order last Wednesday. The aggresor was served the same day only because the police found him. In New Jersey, the person is served with the restraining order when they are found. Luckily he was home, when my sister went back and since she was escorted by the police, they were able to serve her.

Maybe you can do the same thing. Do not go back to the house until you know your husband is there and then only go with a police escort.

In New Jersey, the order is only temporary until you go to court about a week later when the judge will then decide if it should be a final restraining order.

Answer 2

They can't tell you when because they have to find him. As for your stuff, I suggest that you ask the court if a deputy or police officer would escort you to get your things. In the very least don't go alone, take as many adults with you as possible. I never was able to get a restraining order for verbal and mental abuse. You are fortunate.
It takes a woman at least seven times to leave an abusive relationship. You will feel very alone and wonder if all of the things he had said were true. You are not crazy! You are a worthwhile person! Your son needs you to show him what is acceptable in a loving and healthy relationship. You are not alone! May God bless and keep you and yours.

Answer 3

I don't know where you live, but in the U.S., each state has different requirements for getting a restraining order. The lawyer will know the laws.

Here, they issue an immediate temporary order until the court date, so you are protected until then.

Lock your house up and keep a phone close. If he comes around, do not speak to him, but call for help. Do not hesitate or give him time to do anything. The only thing you can tell him is to leave your property and remind him there is a restraining order. Do NOT open the door or let him in.

Tell your employer that you have a restraining order and show or give him/her a picture of your husband so they will know the situation if he shows up in the workplace. They can be a big help in protecting you.

My ex knew I was going to submit paperwork for a restraining order and had the nerve to accost me in front of the judge's chambers in the courthouse! Several attorneys working in the offices surrounded him in the hallway. They told me to get on the elevator and go downstairs to the sheriff's department, file a complaint, and ask for an escort to file my paperwork. I was escorted by two deputies so I could safely file my paperwork.

For awhile, until things cool off ... ask friends to be with you when you go places so you wll not be alone. Perhaps a male family member can stay with your for a short time. Once things cool off and he has time to deal with it, you can probably just move on with your life.

Good Luck to you!

Sue

Answer 4

It really depends on how quickly they can catch up with him. They will most probably do it that day. If I were you I would go somewhere safe, a family members home is not the safest place to be. Here is the number for the National Domestic Violence Hot line, they can assist you and also if given enough time have a someone to be an advocate for you while you go through the process. Call this number and they will give you the number to the one close to your home. Even if you choose not to go to the shelter call and get some advice from them. Good luck and God bless 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-799-SAFE

Answer 5

hello,
well i got a restraining order on my ex last november and it took them till dec.6 to issue it....it all depends on the server....and how many things they have to serve...so they could give you a court date and have to change it...sence you are getting one why would you stay there???that makes no sence unless your not ready for it to happen or leave????where i left right after he went to work....and went 100 miles away....and no type of abuse is good for you or your baby....where mine physicaly abused me and mentaly....so go figure i put up with if for 6 years....but i also fought back there is no way my brothers would have stood for me not standing up for my self.....so i had to do something befor i killed him or he killed me.....so if your not ready don't do it and don't do it unless your in a safe place....because you have no idea on how angery he will get and what he could do to you and your child when you put it on him alot of hard feelings are going to develop and you have to be prepared for it your self.....good luck in what ever happens and please make sure that your in a very safe place to where he cannot hurt you or your child......

Answer 6

a restraining order is one component, also document a document of robbery. sounds like you want a guy to set this guy instantly. if he were a 4 legged dogs your horses would have kicked the cr*# out of him a lengthy time period a go. save that appointment.

Answer 7

it could take up to 2 days to a month, yah never know sometimes it could be issued the same day that u go into the court room

this has happened to me alot

Answer 8

Is this a payback or just plain spite, so as your husband can't see his son. That's what you seem to be leading up to!