It was me, my sister jamie, my bff samantha, jamie's bff crystal, and my male cousin tyler on friday night, the day before tyler left for ohio. we were all watching movies in my bedroom at like 11 pm. (crystal and tyler are bf's) well the movie ended and i said i would get up and turn off the tv but tyler didn't hear me. sam and jamie fell asleep. i was about to fall asleep when tyler and crystal started making out they ended up having sex. tyler is 14 and crystal is13 neither where virgins. i let them know i was awake after they quit. i found out he was unprotected. i'm only 14 and i am worried. her mother is a drug addict and she knows her daughters are sexually active and doesn't care. what should i do?
2006-11-06 11:53:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Suggest to your friends to use condoms. You can tell her about your concerns, but the decision is up to her. If she is going to be sexually active, she should be on birth control.
2006-11-06 11:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is blessed to have a friend who does care about her, even if her mother doesn't or isn't able to because of her drug addiction.
Talk to your friend as a friend. Get information about the long term effects of her sexual behavior.
Do you have a close relationship with your mother? You might discuss it with her and have her "mother" your friend a bit. You might invite your friend over alone... just the two of you and your mom sometimes, and let her develop a relationship with your mom as well.
By the way, did your mom know you were in your room with boys and girls and sex was happening up there? NO WAY would that have happened in my home. You should not allow boys in your room anymore, since you have reached an age where that is now a problem. You are not a child anymore, Dear. You are becoming a young woman and it is important that you protect yourself and set boundaries for your friends.
I wish you the best. You are a good friend who cares.
Sue
2006-11-06 20:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There isn't too much you can do but talk to her. If you find that isn't working. You could try and talk to another family member of hers that may care. (Besides her mother) The only other option may be a guidance counselor at school or possibly a teacher you trust. I had my best friend get pregnant when we were 15. This ruined her childhood, believe me I saw it first hand. Do what you can for her, but in most cases a strong willed 14 years old with no parental guidance, will do what they want, when they want. Try to help her as best you can. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-06 20:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom. An adult needs to handle this. Crystal's mom needs to have them removed from her home. Having a drug-addicted parent is no way for a child of any age to live.
2006-11-06 20:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suggest to your friends to use condoms. You can tell her about your concerns, but the decision is up to her. If she is going to be sexually active, she should be on birth control.
2006-11-06 20:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Caty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely with who said to tell your mom.
It's always best to turn to an adult when you're lost and don't know what to do for things like this.
2006-11-07 12:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow tell your mom
some adult needs to know
and crystal needs to be taken from her home
and crystals mom needs help
2006-11-06 21:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i'm sorry that you had to see that-espically that it was your cousin and one of your friends. i would tell your aunt (tylers mom) for sure. i'm sorry to say this but it will probably be there (in your mind) for a long time.
2006-11-06 20:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Haley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok thats screwed up in many ways, but tell them to use birht control next time, and make sure they know how dumb they are!!!!!! Tell them it was iresponsible and then wait, to see if your friend misses her period, then find a free clinic and have her get an abortion. she proabably regret it but she isnt ready for a kid neither is he and since her mom is how she is, she wont help, with the kid. and tell them they are stupid for having sex at 13 & 14!!!! retards!!!!!!!
2006-11-06 20:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
talk to an adult you trust like a councellor or even your mum
2006-11-06 21:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋