What do you do when you think that you are doing alot for other people but noone is doing anything for you? Like you buy all of your friends birthday gifts but in return you get a card from everyone.One card. Eveyone else has a job unlike you.I'm not their friend because of what they can do for me but man this isn't cool.
2006-11-06 11:50:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
remember the more u give the more u get
2006-11-06 11:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥H뮧hË¥™♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to learn that some people just aren't always as generous as you. It's selfish to think that you deserve a lot, but everyone's wanted a little more sometimes. Just accept them as your friends. How they spend their money is completely up to them. If you get really mad, I guess you could just bale out on giving them gifts...but that doesn't solve anything.
The solution is to forget this whole ordeal. There isn't a way you can ask your friends to give you more without being rude in some way. Treat yourself instead! Go buy something that is just for you - simply as a self-esteem booster. And don't feel too bad about getting cards instead of gifts - they still love you!
2006-11-06 19:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Corinne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears you are an unusually generous person, but the problem is that not everyone else is as thoughtful as you are. That's not their fault and it certainly isn't your fault. I guess we often turn to that old saying "Its better to give than receive", but the truth is its just not always nice to give and then not get back.
I guess you have to take stock of the situation by assessing how much you are getting out of the situation of giving. If you are filled with joy with the more gifts you give, then this will work for you. If you have to constantly think about how others are shortchanging you in the relationship, then its time to rethink it. Maybe you should approach the situation by saying to yourself "How much would I give this person if they weren't able to give me anything back in return?" and give accordingly. That way, you might not resent them so much for not keeping up with you, which seems to have become the core issue.
2006-11-06 20:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I don't even get a birthday card or any card at all. I wish that for all that I do they would at least have the decency to get me a nice meaning full card. I try my best to remember this, it's not what we get down here that matters, it's what we get when we get to heaven that does matter. I've cut back on getting gifts for all my friends. I've found myself only getting for those who are closest too me. Maybe we should get something for those less fortunate than us. They would probably appreciate it more. Keep your chin up because your better than they are. Happy Trails to You! :o)
2006-11-06 20:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Starla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the person who said the more you give the more you get. Becasue when you give it shouldnt be to recive ,you should always give from your heart and if it's not from your heart then you really shouldnt give at all. Nothings wrong with buying gifts for people ,but be wise. I was once told (LOL) It's better to give from your heart than to give what's not !!! The value of it is much greater.....And rember with some people( me for example) the little thing's are what counts,and before you say yea right ,TRY IT !!!!
Take my advice it's true!!!
2006-11-07 17:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk to them about it. If you really feel like your being taken for granted than tell them so and why you feel that way. If you don't want to say anything then don't get them anything except a card like they did to you. Hopefully they'll get the message.
2006-11-06 19:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mark and Allie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same crappy problem in high school..it sucks, but you always win in the end because you can appriciate and they can't. you can be a strong individual while they all need tons of people around them to feel cool. i am 19, and i don't keep in touch with them that much..why care for people who don't care about you?
2006-11-06 19:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kell Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I give and expect nothing in return. I feel better when I give to others.
And the up shot of expect nothing in return, its darn hard to be disappointed.
2006-11-06 19:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by cwxmas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you do special things because you want to. If you expect to receive in kind you will be sorely disappointed.
2006-11-06 20:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by No Way 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop buying them gifts, just sign a card like they do.
2006-11-06 19:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋