but i am 19 and he is 18---
i feel that we should because we are having sex---
i am christian and i have guilt---so much guilt. i gave it to God, but it isnt enough---- do we get married?
i feel its the right thing to do---
and i might be pregnant.
2006-11-06 11:40:27 · 14 answers · asked by Amber_Lea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DO NOT GET MARRIED. I just read you other question about your boyfriend abusing you. Getting married won't solve you problems. If you feel bad about having sex then stop having sex. RESPECT yourself. Find out if you're pregnant, if not great. If you are deal with it, but do not get married.
2006-11-06 11:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by rustygrapevineyard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've had sex so, in Gods eyes your already married. However, the state you live in might have a different view. I do have one question. Did he ask yet? It sounds as if you are taking charge of the family unit before you get married. If your a Christian that's a bit taboo. My guess is you want a speedy marriage to hide the fact that you're pregnant. Sort of a reverse shotgun wedding where the brides holding the gun. But since you asked, I would say yes you should get hitched. You also need to get a job. So does he before you get married. Get insurance because if you don't you start life in the hole! Babies cost a bunch. Since this is a speedy wedding, you can't come back on here and gripe in 5 years that your hubby is too immature!
2006-11-06 20:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just read your other question too. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES MARRY THIS BOY!!!!!
Marriage is a partnership (not a kingdom with a king and a serf!), not something that you 'should' do. If you don't want to have sex outside marriage, stop having sex - don't get married! Guilt would have to be one of the worst reasons for getting married that I have ever heard.
(So what if you're pregnant? God loves you, no matter what - when/if you become a parent, you'll understand this in your heart. Solo motherhood may be hard, but it isn't the end of the world. Trust me, I know!)
2006-11-06 20:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by ~jve~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Do you want to get married or do you feel like you have to? Two wrongs don't make a right. I think you know in your heart what you are supposed to do. Don't marry someone because you might be pregnant or because you are having sex anyway. It is never too late to do the right thing. Speak to a pastor that won't condemn you or ask another christian to support you and pray with you and for you. Listen to God and make it a matter of serious prayer. Can you talk to your parents or a Christian couple that you look up to?
2006-11-06 19:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by los 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both so young. You first need to find out if you are pregnant or not. If you gave it to God, you shouldn't have any more guilt, God knows your heart. Your decision to marry should be based on love, and it shouldn't be something you have to question for too long.
2006-11-06 20:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by heartbroken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even be sexually active at such a young age. What were you thinking? Didn't you ever learn in school that you shouldn't be sexually active until after you're married? Unless it was by force, you'll have to deal with the consequences. Don't get married just yet because you're rushing into this. Think over the situation and decide later.
2006-11-06 19:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by urashortie103092 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you want to get married but is your boyfriend want to get married now and are you certain you are in love with this person ask yourself is right to do for you to marry a person because you felt guilt by god, then i have ask why did you have sex with him anyway you love him and if your boyfriend is willing to get marry then this is you and him need to discuss about this, and if you are pregrant for sure then tell him. HOPE THIS HELP HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY and one thing i need to say if you are not pregrant dont get marry in young age enjoy life lol
2006-11-06 19:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by mike2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're "having sex", it's not a good reason to get married. Get married if you feel that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. There's nothing wrong with sex, unless you're being reckless. Also, there are plenty of contraception options available nowadays, please see your doctor, and act responsibly.
2006-11-06 19:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait and go to school first. You are way too young. I got married young and had children young and though I don't regret it, I do regret not getting more education before having babies. It was way difficult.
2006-11-06 19:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by SheRa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ready to get married I think you should, but don't get married just because your having sex get married because you love him and you want to be with him-THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!!
2006-11-06 19:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by ღ|l°Coltrane°l|ღ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋