I'm trying to find some more information on how to deal with someone who is afraid of getting close to someone. Their mom died when they were young, so now they tend to like to have a lot of people around them, but not let them get too close. They got very close to me, sharing very intimate things, and now I believe is afraid that they got too close so they pulled away. Are there any informational sites that can help in knowing what to do in this situation?
2006-11-06 11:37:35 · 3 answers · asked by Squeegy 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you have hopes of becoming "more than friends" with this person, think long and hard about it. I am just coming out of a relationship like this, and it's very, very difficult. Every time you think you've made some progress, he'll pull back. I'm not saying not to be friends with this person, but keep it at friendship. Otherwise, it can cause a lot of hurt and heartache.
2006-11-06 11:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters i have lived and are still living through a smiliar sinario. They have a hard time trusting people because at a young age they feel abandoned and felt so much hurt from there loss. Now they think if they get close to any one again something might happen to them and they will experience the same loss again. this is y they withdraw from people.
2006-11-06 19:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has serious issues, the relationship you probably want will be a beautiful and intense disaster. It's a hell of a ride but be sure you can get burned without getting burned-out. Good luck.
2006-11-06 19:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋