My wife has been talking to a guy online and i found out she has called him on the phone..... She says our 2 sons are her nephews! And i have no idea what to do or what to say to her....
2006-11-06 11:34:56 · 16 answers · asked by confused diablo newbie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like the communication between you and the wife is just about down to nothing. Make arrangements for the 2 of you to go somewhere alone and have a very romantic tryst and do a lot of calm coversation. You can't blame her for looking for some romance if she isn't getting it from you. Marriage does not stop the courting.
Tell her how much u love her and ask if there are any changes in the relationship that you and she might like to make.
2006-11-06 11:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by TillieDillie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her. Don't beat around the bush, be direct and firm. She may lie to you, so don't expect an honest answer. It is up to you to decide if you want to remain married to someone who cheats and lies. You cannot save your marriage if she lies/cheats and refuses to admit there is a problem.
I do not buy the excuse that women cheat because the husband is neglecting her. Two wrongs don't make a right. My ex husband neglected me and I never cheated. What does cheating accomplish? It only makes a bad situation worse. It's best to work on the marriage together, if that doesn't work, you have to make a decision to stay (put up with the behaviour since he/she is not willing to change) or go.
I don't know why people say not to worry because it's just internet stuff. Many cheaters use the internet to find someone else. It's very common because it is easy and convienant.
2006-11-06 11:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by funandsun20 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was just the Internet stuff, I would probably tell you to chill out and not worry about it, what could it hurt on Internet. But the fact that she has actually called this guy, and lying about your kids is definitely cause for concern.
I would talk to her about it and she how she reacts. Your best bet is NOT to accuse her of anything, just ask her about it.
See how she responds and go from there.
Good luck.
2006-11-06 11:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by cwxmas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can always get a bug they sell them on the internet or just contact anyone who knows a good bit about computors they should be able to tell you where to look on the computor where ppl think they delete there messeges or just have her login and have her go somewhere with you with out giving her time to log out make it like a hurry hurry thing then when you get back if shes making it obvoise that she has to get to the comp before you do is that shes tring to get there before you set ur eyes on it i mean she is ur woman you should know her and if you dont want to take that route do a search for her name on the internet like google youll be surprised what you find out but you get good or not soo good out comes best bet is to just have her do the log in one and then act like your the one thats needs to get to the comp then you should have her where you want her but u can let her think that ur leaving without then at the last miute snag her up well hope you find out what you want
2006-11-06 12:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by joel t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u want to find out more about the relationship, then if she on the computer when u get home or ur in bed, then just come in the room and say theirs something u have to do on the internet, and check the history, check the most recent times first, then go further back. also if shes on the computer and u know her IM is on then cut the computer off by the switch or power cord, and u cut it back on then get on the internet and the IM should automatically pop up if they have sent her anything because she didnt get to log on when u shut it off, i think this may work.
2006-11-06 11:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by nicky l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
got to confront her, because if u don't she will keep doing it, or maybe start cheating. one doesn't call someone else unless they have it in their mind to go farther. adultry begins with a thought in ones mind, and progresses until they have crossed the line. got to set some boundaries, boundaries are not about the other person but you, let her know u are hurt, and if she is sorry and repentive, it will show by her actions. sounds like she is boored with her life, and is looking for some excitement.
2006-11-06 11:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop being on the internet and stop calling strange people. Unless you know who she is calling, she has no right as a wife to be calling strange men. Restrict her to one hour a day on the internet. As a husband you have the right to control her where this is concerned. If you don't exercise your right, she will continue to be behave unwifely and not keeping to her marriage vows.
2006-11-06 11:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not get jealous of the interent. I would never call my own children my niece or nephew. I love my kids too much to do that.
2006-11-06 11:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her she will only denie but if she is willing to lie about her children than this is a little more than just a friend right!
2006-11-06 11:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by *sun*flower* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately confront her about why she is telling a person her sons are her nephews. ask her why she is calling this guy.
2006-11-06 11:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋