But when i get stressed i need sex as a relief. What do i do when we r both stressed at the same time?? (LIKE NOW!)
2006-11-06 11:31:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My sex drive goes down when I'm stressed as well. But my girlfriend is quite creative in making me feel relaxed enough to have a go with her. Do what she does to me. She gives me a light massage, just to rouse me enough. I tend to give in in no time at all. G'luck!
2006-11-06 12:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clean up the place, prepare her dinner, FIX HER A NICE BUBBLE BATH WITH CANDLES AROUND THE TUB!! And light some candles in the bedroom, put on romantic music and give her an all-over massage. RELAX HER!!! If you can relax her, she will eventually open up to love-making. Also, try LISTENING to her talk about her troubles - BUT DON'T do that on the night you want to get romantic!! Give her a mushy card telling her how important it is to count your blessings even when things are difficult in life. Tell her how LUCKY you are to have her in your life and how much you want to be there for her. Be a good listener for her, and then the next night, clean up, make a nice dinner and bath, and bring that seduction back into your bedroom and remind her how lucky she is to be a woman!!!
2006-11-06 11:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree sex is a great stress relief-but my g/f won't even think of it if she is stressed,so i know where your coming from.
2006-11-06 11:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me and my GF. We are the same way. I have learned though to not bug her for sex when she is stressed. It only makes things worse. I try to wait till her stress level is down or I call out my own name (if you know what I mean) if I can't wait.
2006-11-06 17:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by animallover1954 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally when I'm stressed, sex is the last thing on my mind. Give your girlfriend a break and allow her to get through what she's going through. Instead of wanting from her, support her. Take care of yourself until she feels like it....
2006-11-06 11:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not to be crude in answering you, but masturbate. People respong differently to stress, and it is something you will need to talk about when you have both eliminated the stress going on right now, but in the mean time, meet your own needs, and allow her her space.
2006-11-06 11:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by jhostman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Same problem as me and my girlfriend, I recomend masturbation. You can't expect her to want to have sex when she is really stressed, it just kills the mood for her, so you'll have to find a new way to relieve your stress.
2006-11-06 18:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough spot to be in! Most people lose their sex drive with stress or depression.
Be patient with each other and things will work themselves out. If all else fails, you can matters into your own hands.
2006-11-06 11:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by cwxmas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can masturbate and she can go bang her head on the wall....I use sex as a stress relief also but my husband doesn't so when we are both stressed he can sit and mope, I'm going to screw myself thank you.
2006-11-06 11:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk it out with your partner. Make them not so stressed so that you guys can have sex. Or eat chocolate.
2006-11-06 11:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by Karaden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋