My Mother in Law had me falsely arrested!?

Question

Charges were dropped, no evidence, no nothing!

Should I sue her??

She accused me of Terrorist theat to my kid when all I did was tell her to clean her room! After about 20 other times I told her. My daughter 12 got on her cell phone and called her grandma and told her I was going to kill her. "Which is a Lie". I did not touch her or punish her!

And at the time the police said to my wife if she did not let them arrest me they would take our or other children away! So I spent 8 days in jail till all the investigations were done.

CPS and the Police said this was all in the "mind" of the child.

I want my mother in law in jail too! Can I do that? What to do??

I now do not ever want her "mother in law" around my kids ever! And the 12 year now lives with her and has run away, stole things, smokes, gets in fights at school, acts like a gang banger, suspended from school " and even gave mother in law a bloody nose ! Now she wants to sue the school. Thank you for your time!

Answer 1

Your first mistake was giving a cell phone to a punk 12-year-old.

Unless you are planning on divorcing your wife, the woman who is your mother-in-law is going to STAY your mother-in-law. That being said, you have a few options:

Option 1: Do not retaliate against her. She knows what she did was wrong. Instead, focus all of your energy on getting right with your 12-year-old, including - and maybe most importantly - counseling, to help the child figure out what is behind all the self-destructive behavior. Sounds to me like this is one angry kid, and, given the dysfunctionality of your family, I can't say I blame the child. Sounds like there is a lot to be angry about.

Option 2: Get a lawyer and file charges of false reporting (which lead to your arrest) against your mother-in-law. You may be awarded compensatory damages like loss of wages and defamation of character (which is pretty hard to prove). This result would put a few sheckles in your pocket, but will certainly do nothing to bring any peace to the family. By bringing charges against your mother-in-law, you will effectively drive a wedge between her and your wife, which may already exist and will certainly be made worse by this action. You have to decide if it is "worth it" in the long run. It is highly unlikely that your mother-in-law will be sentenced to any jail time, so, put that revenge pipe-dream to rest.

3. File action(s) in Court to prevent your mother-in-law from having contact with your children. This will likely not be granted, as one of your kids is already in her custody. The best you can hope for is that the Court will agree that the woman is somehow a threat to the children and will mandate that her visitation with the children be supervised.

Courts make decisions based on what THEY perceive to be "in the best interests of the children". Judges have seen it all and don't really care how mad you are about what happened. Your best bet, in the long run, would be to arrange for family counseling. This action on your part will go a long way to show a Judge that you, too, are taking the children's best interest to heart, and putting their welfare ahead of your own agenda.

I understand why you are so mad. YOU need to understand that your anger - while justified - will likely not get you anywhere given the way Courts look at things these days. Keep a level head and you will be more likely to prevail. One last thing - my own personal experience in Family Court is - the one with the most expensive lawyer "wins". Sad & disgusting, but true.

Answer 2

Realistically there is probably very little you could do. By law any report of child abuse has to be investigated and in the eyes of the court, this would be a caring grandmothers concern. I would however be questioning the eight days in lock-up. People are not locked up during investigation periods. My ex who was a very real threat to both the children and I only had to remove himself from the home. As for your daughter she is completely out of control and in need of some boundaries. I would suggest some sort of intervention before it is too late. You can as a parent ring crisis care and let them know that through her behavior she is a danger to herself..either that or find a social worker who can see clearly that this child is in need of help. She clearly feels that she can make her own rules and live her own way of life...and at twelve years old is starting on a very dangerous path

Answer 3

Your twelve year old daughter is trouble and doesn't respect your rules. Your mother-in-law picked-up on this and decided to use it against you. Be very careful with your daughter. Next time she might say her father abused her because she didn't get somethings she wanted. Keep her on a short leash or you will really end-up in jail. Since your daughter is very young, you can still try some type of Counseling. Hopes this helps. Remember what U2 said in his Song: "Love Is Blindness" Try the Achtung Baby CD. Last thing: You and the Father should stick together at all times; this is the only way it works.

Answer 4

I consider unhealthy for you and what you have got to move by way of. I imply for your brain you on the whole concept he was once simply going within the different room to play.. or uncover a toy... by no means in 1 years did you believe you studied that he could be strolling out the entrance door directly right into a cop vehicle. Well, you appear like a well mother and all of us make errors everyday. Do you've gotten an lawyer appointed to you? Be sincere, that is the high-quality you'll be able to do........ when you've got by no means had any issues with the legislation earlier than.. and with the care of your son.. I quite suppose the pass judgement on will have an understanding of and confidently this complete ordeal will also be placed to leisure. No one wishes to take a baby from their mom... there are folks in the market doing unlucky horrible matters to their youngsters and also have custody, which sickens me. Be powerful....... I comprehend it's horrifying, however I quite suppose you are going to be ok.. it is one mistake. Yes that one mistake would have ended up horrible.. however thank goodness it did not and he was once risk-free. I shall be considering you.

Answer 5

If you push legal action (arrest, lawsuit) you're gonna lose your wife and any hope of some sort of friendly resolution.

It is possible that you've married into a crazy family full of nuts.

The best course of action is for you and your wife to get into therapy, and find a way to get the 12 year old in therapy before your "visitation rights" are those imposed by a prison somewhere.

Answer 6

You lost my sympathy when you said the 12 year old lives with her, smokes...etc. CPS placed her there, right? And the social worker doesn't believe a thing you say, right? Give granny a bloody nose and granny blah, blah, blah.
You knew what you were getting when you had to have g.f./wife. You just weren't smart about it by keeping her at a distance. Bet g.f./wife takes her side. You got a mess when you picked her and had the kid. I'd leave and disappear.

Answer 7

sounds like your daughter has been alienated against you (gossip)ruins more families counseling is needed but bringing her back in your home with this current problem could set the same path for your other children the next story could be worse and put you in prison she needs to be stopped asap if left with Gramma she will be in trouble with the law or you. If in foster care temporary placement would be a chance to start over in a different setting counceling for all But if Gramma is the problem she needs to be curtailed before she works on your other children in the same way stop the gossip around you it kills and destroys lives

Answer 8

lots to be angry and concerned about. Kids play games with us adults and laws lean on their side. I suggest group counseling with all involved. Nobody's getting the right story, because everything is being told indirectly. If you all can get together with either a professional counselor or just with someone you all can trust (impartial), then you can all get on the same page. At least you can tell your thoughts and feelings without being made out as the bad guy.

Answer 9

What will sueing her get you? Will that put a dent in the relationship with your wife?
If you have to proceed with this look into slander or deffamation of character charges. Perhaps a small claims court would award you monetary damages for pain and suffering.
Good luck!!!

Answer 10

unless you have proof of a crime you can't have her arrested but you can sue her but the question is should you ,besides give her time if what you say is true about your daughter sounds like your mother inlaw is getting what she deserves also you could drop a anonymous call on her to child protection services .