he could easily get an athletic scholarship. We just made the playoffs for f/ball and expect to do well because of the talent on the team this yr.I just found out this morning that he failed English with a 62 for the 6 wks. He was making an 80 last wk{I have been in very close contacts w/teachers to keep track of how he is doing}He had a book review due and when she graded it he had done it completely wrong and rec a 0 on it. I had him redo it, she would not accept it.whats done is done but we live in a very small town and my son is so embarrased that he does not even want to go back to school.He will go back tomorrow but here is the dilemma.I know how the coaches are and he will never live it down that he failed and I don't want it to cause my son to drop out of school{yesits that serious}He wants to transfer schools.He feels he will never be given a fair chance to play any sport now. I know he should suck it up but I also see where he is coming from.My husb.@ I cant even function
2006-11-06 10:52:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sports ➔ Other - Sports
Are you more upset that he failed English or he doesn't want to play football?
Get your priorities in order. A scholarship will not materialize if the young man can't pass English.
Tell your son to stop feeling sorry for himelf. Many people from Einsten to Michael Jordan have failed something when they were young - the important thing is to get back up and prove to others that you can get the work done.
When your son gets sacked by an opposing linebacker does he stay on the ground? No, he shakes it off and goes to the next play and doesn't think about the previous play.
If your son did the report in the wrong fashion that means he is capable of doing it the right way, so he can improves his grades at some point.
As parents, you have to be the strong ones and you have to set the example. Your son must be told that he can't run away from his problems or accept failure so easily.
I doubt the coaches wil make his life a living hell over one report.
As for you and your husband "not functioning" - that is silly. You are the parents, you have to find a way to function!!
2006-11-06 10:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by ABC 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You, your husband, and your son need to get a grip on this situation. It is controlling your life needlessly. Step back a bit and look at the situation in perspective. It is great that your son is a wonderful athlete. It is keeping him healthy and involved kids are less likely to get in trouble. He is not the first high school athlete to not pass a class and have to sit out a game or 2. It is unlikely that just one failed book review lowered an 80 to a 62 so you may want to make an appointment with his teacher, with your son along, to review his work history and the grading system. Try thinking about what difference this incident will make in 1 year, how about 5 years, what about when he is 50? What are the most important life lessons you want your son to learn? Taking responsibility for his actions and learning from mistakes are valuable for his future. I am concerned that your son puts so much value on this to the extent that a failed grade makes him not want to go to school anymore. He has put a lot of pressure and perhaps unrealistic expectations on himself or maybe he feels you and your husband will not accept him if he fails. You need to reassure him that you love him no matter what and that this situation will be forgetten by everyone in a couple days time. We, too, live in a small town and I understand the dynamics of that. However, terrific athletes come and go every graduation. Some move on to college level play with a scholarship, but most don't. It is one thing to be best in your school, but colleges have access to some of the finest athletes in the country. I have lived in my town all my life and have seen plenty of the best athletes sit on the bench for a game or two because of acadmeic ineligibility and they make it through that embarrassment to play again. The majority of people are glad to see the coach stick to the rules and not allow that athlete to play if he can't make the grades. You and your husband need to put aside whatever personal stake you hold in your son's sucesses and failures and focus on giving him the courage to face what will make him stronger.
2006-11-06 11:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's the varsity qb, it should be ok. I've played football for many years and trust me. The qb is the king out there. If he gets yelled at, so be it. He is still the leader of that team. It's time that he acts like it. He should be talking to his teachers, not you. He has to grow up and be a man. Mom what happens on the field between he and his coach should stay there(unless physical harm is done) he has to suck this stuff up. And with that passive behavior, he wont recieve any scholarships, coaches in college will eat him alive and he'll drop out within a month.
2006-11-06 11:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by kyle b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Save him the trouble, let him transfer and quit playing sports while he's at it. Cause if he's going to tuck tail and run every time he fails......he will NEVER amount to anything in sports. So he should get it over with now so he can concentrate on another career.
2006-11-06 12:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he should focus on sports. everyone screws up, some more than others. he is going to have to learn to deal with that, and running won't help. dropping out will ensure that he will not receive any offers (for one thing he needs to have a diploma, and coaches don't like quitters). it sure won't be easy, but he is going to have to deal with it. transfering will likely endanger his eligibility, and the ncaa doesn't like when kids jump schools during their senior year. yes he is going through a hard time, but he's gonna have to get over it, because running away won't solve anything.
2006-11-06 11:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by C_Millionaire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes he should just suck it up, but that is an answer from us adults. For a teenager in school, this means everything. Sit and talk to him about it, he can't be transferring schools each time he fails a subject.
2006-11-06 10:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time to man up and quit being a wuss about it.
2006-11-06 12:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by murderman3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let him transfer he would have to start his reputation all over
2006-11-06 10:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by redster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-06 10:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋