no one notices that there is such an age difference. they want to get married and start a family. but is this age difference too much?
2006-11-06 10:45:46 · 31 answers · asked by robert 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes its too much hes an old pervert.
2006-11-06 10:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I met my husband when he was 36 and I was 19. We've been married for almost a year. The age difference is NOT an issue. We are both mature adults though. I would say it really depends on the girl's maturity level and where your brother is at in life. Does the girl want to get married and have kids, if so is he ok with that?
2006-11-06 20:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by ND Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw, it's great. Would be even better if he was dating the girl's mother. She IS close to his age. Would you like it IF one of your daughters dated a guy YOUR age? Face it, he's robbing the cradle. Can't he get women his own age? Lets say they marry- a year from now. Then, they have a couple kids. She'll be 21-24. He'll be around 45. When the kids get to be 8-10, he'll be ready to retire, and his kids will just be high school. Heck, at graduation, he'd be older than a lot of the Grandparents there.
2006-11-06 19:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may feel differently towards him in a few years. My situation wasn't as drastic of an age gap, but similar. I made very adult decisions to young, that I later regretted because I needed time to grow, learn and just enjoy being a young adult. I'm still with him and love him, and he deals with me reverting back to what I missed out on. But the thing is you really can't go back. And how much is he willing to put up with? My suggestions would be to date awhile or have a long engagement.
2006-11-06 19:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Aces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love comes in all ages. Different people fall for people that are different ages. She is legally able to make that decision on her own. If she loves him and he loves her, then that's what matters (not the age difference). My only questions is, does he have a LOT of money? If so, keep an eye out for a potential gold digger (i'm just saying). Otherwise, let your brother live his life and hopefully this girl is his true love.
2006-11-06 18:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am sure he's supremely happy but ill bet she hasn't had alot of experience with men at all. wont matter too much at first but wait a couple of years when she wants to go start living and growing and he has already been there done that. it will make alot of difference then. if he really loved her he would walk away and let her start out on her own life. i think he is being selfish to snag such a young girl who has no way of really knowing what she will be like in just five years. no one notices them when they are out cause they just assume he is her father and if they do notice they think there goes another guy with a midlife crisis.
2006-11-06 18:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not know if there is real love here, or just lust. Honestly, I do not think that the marriage will work out too long if they get married, because of the age difference.
If I was the lady at 19 years of age, I would definitely stop and think before tying the knot.
I wish them the best.
2006-11-06 18:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Age is just a number. Live and let live without judgment.
From a biological sense, it's natural for a 40 year old man to want a 20 year old woman as a mate.
2006-11-06 19:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unlikely to stand the test of time...but stranger things have happened...she's young enough to be his daughter and he's probably on an ego trip that he's dating a 'sweet young thing'...
Time will tell but as he's well into middle age, and she's barely out of high school...he should be solidly into his career, and she's probably still deciding what hers will be...life experiences are vastly different, and (probably) maturity too...
As he starts to look like an "older man" she may find the appeal leaves her...it may be kewl now to be dating a mature guy, but when she hits 25 or 30 and he's 47 or 52, the appeal may vanish as he'll begin to look and act more like a grandpa, than a distinguished older guy.
2006-11-06 18:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well he will be 59 when the first child graduates from highschool. That is kinda old. Will he have the energy and interest to raise his children properly. Can he keep up with his wife's desired level of activities, sexual and otherwise? Is she an "old soul" who is not prone to immature acts and behaviors?
It can work but it takes a really good match and a lot of compromise.
2006-11-06 18:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It certainly is a large age gap but if they are honestly in love I don’t think anyone should judge. 22 year age gap is quite large, but I don’t think it’s the largest. In the olden days a girl in her young teens might be married to a man in his 30’s possible even 40’s
2006-11-06 19:28:12 · answer #11 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋