we have sex but its not like it use to be, 1 time we would do it all the time, but now its like when ever for me, but hes ready all the time. what can i do?
2006-11-06 10:39:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
same thing happened with my husband and me so we started dating again.....you know not knowing what the othre will do sneak a note in his lunch just spice up your life and you'll spice up the bedroom to and you can always try new things.....
2006-11-06 10:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well all I have to say is try new things, I have been married for 10 years and until about a 2 years ago sex was a few times a month. we tried a few things to spice it up some.
1. We plan a oral sex only night. (we take turns doing this all night)
2. We have a porn night were we can do anything and anything.
example: She can play with my butt or she will let me c-m on her face.
3. We plan a position night: (we can pick a few positions and we try them that might)
4. We also have hand foreplay night: (all hands)
5. This is the best night we watch each other get off. I love to watch her and she loves to see me c-m.
But the best for us is my wife has big boobs and she thinks it hot to have me between them and c-m on them and her face.
2006-11-06 18:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im sure that when you guys started it was fun and exciting. 2 body's that you both were newly discovering and now its sounds like you look at it like a chore. try getting back to how you guys started. if not go back to when sex was fun as a teenager. do it in other places then the norm, like the car some where. i know it sounds trashy but it sounds luike you need to be mentally stimulated. its known that women recieve more pleasure from mental stimulation then the actual physical stimulation. also like the first answer talk to the man. but tell him you want to be more adventurous.but under any circumstance dont make him feel inferior in bed. just tell him you are looking to expand your horizons.
2006-11-06 18:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you feel about other things? If you have gained wieght or got other things (stress) this could be the problem. Loose wieght and exercise more. Get some clothes and such you feel sexy in. Get your self esteem up and tell him what you want while your in bed. Once you get started it is not hard to keep going.
2006-11-06 19:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you, as a woman, are facing a lack of desire it probably stems from issues in the relationship. Is there a problem in the communication dept? Be open and honest with him about any problems you are having and start to work on them. If you feel good about your relationship, then sex will be more appealing.
2006-11-06 18:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get your juices flowing again with some experimentation. Make sex fun again and that will help. Try doing it in a new place. The car? The kitchen? A romatic get away weekend? And try wearing something sexy that you both like. Nylons? Teddys? etc. Try surprising him when he gets home with a little quickie in the doorway.
2006-11-06 18:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You didn't say your ages or how long you've been married. Relationships change over years. Without knowing more, I would recommend a vacation for just the 2 of you. At least a long weekend.
2006-11-06 18:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are like microwaves and women are like crockpots- the guys are ready instantlly and we talk longer- we simmer and warm up slower- I would say it is fairly normal- enjoy it while you can- it will slow down a bit as he gets older- D
2006-11-06 18:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take care of yourself physically otherwise you dont feel sexy if you dont feel sexy you wont want to have sex as often.
That's something that happens to women if they dont feel sexy they avoid sex this hurts their husbands. So take care of yourself girl. then go out and buy something sexy to wear. If you look good you feel good. Feeling good means more sex.
Make time for sex. Maybe you dont want it as much as your husband but us husbands we thrive on it. We like being close to you in that way. A sexually satisfied husband is less likely to cheat and more willing to please you in other ways outside of the bedroom because hes having his needs met too.
I'm sorry ladies but a good meal every night doesn't make up for no sex for 10 months because you're 'not in the mood'. We take that stuff SERIOUSLY! So you want us to please you.....you please us too and see the change in our attitude.
2006-11-06 18:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please check my blog It is dedicated to just this kind of a problem, anyway it really depends on a few factors like your ages, personal stress, job related stress, marriage stress, kids if any, and of coarse the partners and how they are treating each other out side of the bedroom think about it. good luck and enjoy.
2006-11-06 18:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by john_borst2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋