Why is it that women assume that guys know what they are thinking?

Question

Even if the guy is a good guy, why is it still assumed by the majority of women? Is there some sort of communication barrier which entitles them to cut off verbal explaination, then assume the other person could read between the lines and know the true meaning of the statement?
There are guys that do it too, but this is more of a girl thing.
A lot of guys get annoyed when this "hint dropping" occurs and I just want to know:
Is it a type of conditioning of the past where women decide to not give straight answers and questions? Or is it a natural type of "guessing game" that is embedded in the brain?

Answer 1

I think it's a human thing, not specifically a woman thing - but then again, I'm not typical of my gender and I don't pretend to understand the rest of womankind. I've had plenty of experience with women *and* men who only communicate in hints, and it drives me nuts. I don't know one person who's a telepath, but I know enough that assume what other people are thinking (and that said other people know what *they* are thinking) and the assumption is almost invariably wrong and leads to an argument sooner or later. Accurate communication is the key, here. My advice to *everyone* is if you've got something to say, just say it already!

Answer 2

hello,
well some women think that when they are with some one for a while that the man would know what they are thinking from that expression that we give you...but its not all women that do that....it goes the same as the man asking the questions about where they put their things at like keys,socks, undies that sort of stuff....its we are mom and your dad sort of thing, but not all women or men are like that.....i simply state what i want.....but i do play the mom part alot....and i truelly cannot answer the question.....but some men grow acustume to it and just answer and some times they are wrong for answering and most of the time the men just let the woman get away with it because they don't want to get into an arguement for the day.....if you know what i am saying....i would just ask the woman what does she want instead of listening to her hints...that away it avoids you getting into an arguement with her and you know what she is wanting.....and yes there is a communication barrier between us for some reason but thats why we have mouths so we can ask questions to avoid the whole situation...and if you don't understand still what she wants then just ask her to simplify the question that she is asking....and if she gets huffy then just leave it alone for a while and ask later when she calms down.....hope that i have helped you....:)

Answer 3

This is something many women are guilty of...expecting the guys in their lives to be mind readers...it's a flaw in us and some that realize it, DO try to correct it and not assume you know what we are thinking, or why we are upset.

Other women, use it for the drama...the guys asks "what's wrong" and the woman's reply is "YOU know!" and the poor guy hasn't got a clue...

Chicks and dudes are wired differently...and if both would take that into consideration when dealing with each other, there'd be less assumptions that the other knows what one partner is thinking, because we'd realize s/he doesn't think like we do.

Sorry dude...I can't give you and advice to overcome it, or good explanation as to why women do it...but many do...

For us to usually be the ones all about communication, we can really be crummy at it sometimes...lol!

Answer 4

Women are designed to be natural empathisers - they have used evolution to see the feelings of others in a nurturin way to encourage the continuation of the species.

Men are just there to get the munchies and make babies so they have worse communication and levels of empathy.

Women assume this mind-reading because they are made that way.

Answer 5

I think I get what you are saying on some of this. Like we are supposed to know what goes on in their heads. And the fact that you are right, they have a tendency to just not come out and say what they think. I have found I needed to force honesty out of women and its not a fun game to be doing that. Fact is that if a woman is going to do this to me, well she wont be around long enough to keep doing it. Just like women need to not let men get away with using them for physical things only, we cant let them get away with not being up front about everything. Ahhh...the games we play!

Answer 6

For the same reason you assume they want sex every time they give you a hug and a kiss.

Do a little reading before asking a proverbial which came first; the chicken or the egg, question.

Answer 7

Nah, you're right... It's a girl thing. I'll be honest, I've done it. Until I met the right guy and I feel comfortable enough to tell him what is on my mind. When you feel this is going on with your girlfriend, you can try to get her to talk by being sensitive. (I'm not saying you aren't sensitive, but be extra sensitive) Maybe this will bring her out of it. Good Luck.

Answer 8

personaly this is what i think-women's minds automaticly think that men are smart enough to know in a snap what we are trying to say to you through moods and exspersions-and i truely feel sorry for some men that you don't know what they are trying to say-i'm not like that but trust me iv'e seen movies and shows and i feel soo sorry for the men who get stuck with those kinds of women-me i'll just tell you what i want instead of yelling at you to think about it! and you dont even have to guess

Answer 9

because women want to be understood, well-known, and really connected to others. if she has that sort of connection with a guy, she is going to want him to know the deepest things about her (how she might be feeling or might respond to a situation) without her having to spell it out for him

Answer 10

Women presume too much and then we get the cold shoulder for not picking up the "subtle hints"!!!