Is it wrong of me to feel bad that iam at work and my husband and 20 month old son are home and i don't get tr

Question

to cook for them that often i feel like a horrible mom and wife.My husband works as well but he gets home alot early then me.

Answer 1

I went through the same thing. I started both my daughters in daycare at 6months old each. But I started missing them and I think what I was really feeling was just plain worn out! Those are long hours. And I think as mothers we are pressured to act and be a certain way, like the Leave it to Beaver mother, but women have progressed and we should now let the men help if they want to.
Speaking of that, I am glad to hear your husband helps. Is there a way you can cut down on hours at work so you can spend just a bit more time with your family in the evenings?
Then you will probably have more energy, perhaps do better at work, and then you could ask for a raise and everything would work out just fine in the end.
Good luck!!
LM

Answer 2

As long as the household chores are being split you should not feel guilty. My mom is old-fashioned in the thought that a woman should cook dinner every night. I just recently started working graveyard shift and my husband has really stepped up and started helping out more. He will take care of our son so I can get a couple of hours of sleep before work, and on the weekends he will get up with him so I can sleep in.

Answer 3

Well Gina...the tables are turned.....dont feel bad....in every relationship one has to compromise especially when it comes to children...so you are doing your part and so is he....dont feel bad at all....you are doing what you can do....my husband and I used to have problems managing the 'chores' if you will so finally I came up with a checklist of things around the house that needed to be done and we each took on a chore and it has worked out...no arguments and no guilt

We also switch chores every couple months to keep it fair....you may want to try something similar or you may want to keep it the same....I find nothing wrong as long as you communicate clearly about what is expected of each other

Answer 4

It is completely normal for you to feel this way. But you are by far a horrible mother. It would be different if you were away that long and was just happy to not be home :) You are a great mother and you deserve a pat on the back for doing right by your family, no matter how hard it is! Great Job!

Answer 5

You shouldnt feel guilty at all. Families are supposed to help each other out as much as they can. Whoever gets home first, should at least start dinner. Its nice to have a big homecooked meal every now and then, but who has the time. As long as you spend the quality time that you can with the ones you love, you'll be fine

Answer 6

it's hard to work full time and be a mom and wife.
it's understandable that you feel that way. I think all working mom's feel that way.. I know i do, too.
you don't have to cook everyday.
if you want to feel better, try to cook at least once or twice a week..

you can also buy a crock pot. prepare it the day before.. then in the morning , before you leave, turn on the crock pot. When your husband gets home, dinner will be ready!

Answer 7

Would you rather have no money to buy to food to cook if you want to seem like a better mom to yourself then cook before you go to work and then your husband can heat it up. To me you sound like an excellent mother because your thinking about other people besides yourself.

Answer 8

Well, its not really a problem but then it is the man should and would usually be preferred as the one that supposed to work so you could try to take a day off or on the weekend you could talk it over with him and try to be the at home mom,and still get your brakes here and there.

Answer 9

That's really to work out between you and your husband - if he enjoys helping out, it sounds like you have a great husband.

Answer 10

Thats not being a bad mom/wife you are just trying to help support your family..