Alright, so one of my BEST friends has been talking to me about how she really wants "to do it". We are only in the 7th grade. Me and my other friends have tried to tell her she should wait, and how its not safe to do it so young. She said she's planning on doing it this weekend, when one of her guy friends comes to her house for a "research project". Her parents will be at work, so she'll be all alone. I'm freaking out. I've tried talking her out of it, and even told her to talk to a counselor or someone. But she told me not to tell anyone, because she feels like shes ready. But I know shes to young. I'm jsut scared, and I dont want her to do something to her body she'll regret later. PLEASE HELP! Thank you!
2006-11-06 10:06:17 · 15 answers · asked by blueeyedsweetpea11 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Talk to your mother. If you really want to stop her and don't care how drastic your steps are, talk to her parents. This will not be taken well be your friend, but believe me that you are being a very good friend and helping her more than she realizes now. I wish I had had friends like you at several points in my life. And don't pay attention to that terrible parent that put a 6th grader on birth control; they are trying to raise a slvt. Fine, birth control will prevent pregnancy, but I have yet to hear of a pill that restores self-respect or a ruined reputation to the commonly-had. Your friend will look back in later days and thank you for helping her keep hers.
2006-11-06 10:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by julz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Mrs. F if this is your answer I think you should go back to go and not collect your money.
In the first place the young lady is way to young for sex, birth control or not. I'm betting she doesn't know the first thing about what she's getting into. Let this "little girl" mature some and then make decisions like this for herself when she's ready.
Aren't you reading the problems, all of them, from the young people out there that have STD's for Pete's sake? haven't you see all the broken marriages, the hurt romances? take a look and then decide if your daughter, in the 6th grade or a young girl in the 7th grade is ready for sex. I vote no!
Whether or not the other young girl snitches I can't say. I think she should try and talk some sense into her. Maybe try and reason than if she isn't buying it tell her right out that if this is what she's going to be starting, she isn't have any of it and tell her to find a new best friend. Maybe this will shake her a little to her senses.
2006-11-06 10:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think she should have sex either. She's too young. Although some children are put on birthcontrol at that age because of many things that can happen.. absence of getting there menstartion started and not getting as well as a family history.
Her libo which is her sexual drive might be saying go go go, but her body isn't ready.
Has she thought about if she has sex is she going to use a condom? How many people has this guy slept with? What if he has a STD, What about AIDS? What if she gets pregnant?
I would say something.. She should be over his house anyways without supervision from and adult. I know she feels the way she feels but in all best interest it would be in her best interest to wait.
It seems like she didn't think this WHOLE thing through
2006-11-06 10:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by dee luna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such a good friend to look out for her like that! She definitely is too young. Just keep telling her that she needs to save herself until she is a little older. If she doesn't listen, show up at her house while she is working on her 'research project' and interrupt them! Tell her you have some sort of emergency or something... =0)
2006-11-06 10:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her parents if you are her best friend, do the rite thing, if you cant talk her out of it, tell her parents, to save her! dont worry about her getting mad at you, do whats right. and hell yes she's too young and she will regreat it! i'm 16 and still a virgin and i'm damn proud of it! yea i have wanted to have sex, but i havent. tell her that 52% of high schoolers are virgins, she might rethink this. (consdering shes only in the 7th grade) and tell her that guys will use her b/c the guy she going to do it with will tell other guys and she will just become a slut/whore and become prengat and homeless and all kindofs of bad stuff. and sadly i'm telling the truth...
2006-11-06 10:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by kissablepaige 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a good friend! If she won't listen to you your going to have to mess her plan's up somehow without her knowing it was you. That will give you more time to reason with her. Can't you arrange for someone to hang around the house. Maybe make him mad or embarrass him so he won't even go over there I don't know.....Your not going to be able to babysit her forever you know. It's going to happen one of these days. If she is going to "do it" give her a condom & give him one too, that might embarrass him! At least you'll know you tried.
2006-11-06 10:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jesus what the hell is wrong with you kids! ok im only 18 but hey i still have lived more than you tell her about the consequenses! try to interupt her this weekend keep her busy tell her all the cons of doing it at such a young age! do the research first!
2006-11-06 10:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by PrETty iN pUrPle* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you told her how you feel and thats about all you can do. You can't make the decision for her but you can state how you feel about it. Now its kind of up to her to choose what she wants to do. When she regrets well if shee does then you cansay I'm sorry but I told you so or something but right now you really can't do anything. Its all her choice.
2006-11-06 10:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by dm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you scared her yet? does she know about one of his ex-girlfriends, did it with a guy who did it with a girl who has herpes. She lied and said she didn't have it and gave it to everyone else too. And that AIDS is going around in your school, but your not sure who has it yet, you just heard it through the grapevine. Maybe she should wait and find out who has it, before it's too late, you know that in school, everyone passes on this kind of stuff, because there's that big CHAIN CHAIN,,,,,,,,,, CHAIN (CHAIN OF FOOLS)
2006-11-06 10:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by kiss me under the mistletoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She IS too young!
You should go to her house & stick like glue to her while the guy is there. I doubt if she'd do it in front of you!!
Talk to your Mom, and maybe hers too.
2006-11-06 10:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋