pregnant TEEN!!!!????

Question

im a pregnant teen and i need help first off my unborn baby's daddy wont have anything to do with him/her and im pissed second my parents aren't very excited about all this and third im being called a whore at school...what should i do??? drop out and take care of my baby without a father involved????? i dont want to drop out of school and i want my baby to have a father im 16 and i feel as though im growing up to fast i cant even think straight anymore to many problems and for some reson i feel as though my parents are going to kick me out of the house..any help?...thanks

adoption? that has never come to mind i would never consider that i would never do that to my child never!!! although it might be better for my child i still love him/her and i want to keep them i intend to pluse its not like im poor i have money to take care of my baby and have him/her clothed and well taken care of... adoption is never going to be a though in my mind about my child now that thats clear ill talk to my parents about the whole thing and hopefully they understand..thanks so far for everything

ok ok how can i be a whore when i have only slept with one guy and thats his kid and second i intend for my baby to have a future and its going to also over my dead unvirgin body will my baby be left without a mother

kiss my @$$ katie you have a stripper's name

Answer 1

I out of all the people here may know exactly what you are feeling.

I was 16 when I got pregnant and found out on Christmas Eve, I told my boyfriend of a year and he said he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby. I ended up calling my best friend of 6 years and asked her to be by my side when I told my mom I was pregnant and yes my parents were upset and disappointed for a while but they got over it. I remember Christmas day everyone being all happy and opening gifts while I was in my bed crying and did not want to do anything.

One of the worst things you can do is drop out, you need an education to get a good job and screw all those kids at your school. Whenever they call yo ua whore you should say grow the hell up and mind your own business or it takes one to know one. The people at your school sound very immature and if you have to report them then so be it, it is not like they can harm you because attacking a pregnant person can result in the attacker being arrested.

If your parents kick you out then the best place to go is a boarding home for teen moms, their should be some around you, just look in the yellow pages or search online and give them a call and tell them you are homeless and they will set you up at the house with other pregnant teens.

If you really want to leave school because of the stress you are under and you do not want to deal with your school mates ignorance then drop out and get your GED, most boarding homes have a program to help get your GED.

You should check out Justmommies.com and go to teen pregnancy or teen mommy forums , the girls their are a lot of help and a lot of them know what your going threw and they can give you more resources to turn to for help.

Answer 2

Well, first let me say you have a lot on your plate right now.

You've stated that your boyfriend does not want to be involved, perhaps this is for the best, and you should move on.

As for the kids at school, try to deal with it the best you can. Is there a school for pregnant teens in your area? If so, you might investigate this option. A cousin did this, and she was able to graduate from high school.

Second, your parents are probably very worried and concerned for you and your future. If you keep the baby, how will you support your self and your child? Will they help you with a place to stay, money for your expenses etc? They know what it is like to be a parent and they are worried if you are prepared for this same responsibility.

You are growing up fast and when the baby comes, you will have to grow up even faster. Babies require full time attention. Are you ready to sacrifice finishing high school, college, time with friends, jobs, etc for this child? Are you ready to stay up all night, nursing, chaning diapers, clothes, beds and caring for this child? What if your child is born with special needs? Will you be able to get that child the help he/she needs?

You've also stated that you would never think of giving up your child, but is that the best choice. There are many families with means and resources that can better care for your child. You should really consider adoption, it is a selfless act and would show you are putting the needs of your child before your own wants. It will also allow you to finish being a teenager and allow you the oppurtunies in life, like finishing school, college, job training etc., that will help you be a better adult and a better parent down the road.

http://itsaboutlove.org offers free counsling and services to teenage monthers, with out obligation. At least consider adoption. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hi poor girl. I feel sorry for you and i can understand your situation. First of all you have to realize you are not a little girl anymore you are a mother. a mother you must be strong for yourself and your child, even it no one else will. Second, please don't quite school, children of single teen mothers are among the most poorest people on earth. Yes, an education will be your key to help raise your child. Furthermore, don't worry about the past or what people are saying at school because there is someone in side of you counting on you not to give up hope. Plus you may receive more help as a single mother when you go to college. But just make it through high school first. There are all kinds of hot-lines and agencies to assist you on the Internet. Check and see there might be one in your city. Good Luck you'll be fine. You should be happy Many women would do anything just to have a child. Having a baby is a true gift, Don't overlook it :)

Answer 4

I don't think your parents can legally "kick you out of the house" when you are just 16 years old, particularly if you are still in school. You are their legal responsbility until you turn 18 years old, I am pretty sure. So stay on their good side and try to be remorseful about what you did (getting pregnant at just 16 years old may not have been your best idea, dear.) Help with chores and be pleasant with them and I hope they come around. If they do start acting like they want to kick you out, call child protective services (find them in the blue pages of your phone book) because like I said they can't kick you out because that would be child neglect/endangerment.

So stay in school and work as hard as you can. You will need that education. You have a long road ahead.

Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to force your unborn baby's daddy to be involved in this child's life. If he has a job and or income, you can force him to pay child support once the baby is born, and I sure hope you do so. You both will need the money and paying is his reponsbility. He will have to pay until the baby turns 18. But if he doesn't have a job or income, he won't have to pay until he does.

As for being called a whore at school, you will just have to ignore them. They are just being mean and trying to get to you. Not worth your time and effort to worry about what they say. Focus on that education, dear. Study, study study.! Don't let these jerks deny you from getting the education you have a right to!

Good luck.

Answer 5

You have ALREADY grown up too fast for the first point! Second and I know there are going to be tons of people disagreeing with me on this point, but when you chose to "keep" this baby YOU took on all responsibility to care and provide for it. Sorry, but most young guys ditch out sonner or later when it comes to taking care of a child. Alot of them feel the girls control every aspect of the lives involved and split. Yes they should financially provide for the child but that doesnt mean they have to "be there" for that child. Unfortunately the court system makes it very difficult if not impossible for the biological father of a child to petition to give up all parental rights even before the birth so they are "stuck" with an unwanted child that the woman/girl has decided to keep.

Also depending on what state you live in...your parents CAN ask you to leave their home since once you became pregnant (minor or not) you are considered emancipated for all purposes. They are not even allowed access to your medical files during this pregnancy without YOU signing a waiver for them opr anyone else to do so. That includes the father of your child.

Answer 6

Is adoption an option? Its a hard road to take, but it might be better for your baby in the long run. No, don't drop out of school, it will be hard for you to keep going as you get uncomfortable, and harder still to deal with the criticism, but in the long run, getting your diploma is waaay more important and better for you in baby in the long run. Unfortunatly if dad doesnt want to be involved you may end up doing this alone, but that doesnt mean your parents will kick you out. No they won't be happy about it, their little girl is having a little girl, this is a tough one for them. Give them some time and explain to them how much you need them. If you have a responsible plan, like staying in school, getting a job to help pay for baby, or adoption, they are more likely to realize that at least you are handling this like an adult, even if you are not one. Talk it out with them, most parents have a hard time NOT giving their support to their kids, they may be more able to help you than you think. Best of luck to you...

Answer 7

a million.) what's your age? 18 2.) How far alongside are you? 15 weeks. 3.) What replaced into the reason you had intercourse? (ex: rigidity from bf) i replaced into engaged to the guy i like & felt that i replaced into waiting. 4.) Did you utilize some variety of birthcontrol? (ex: bc or condom) start administration. 5.) Is the infant's father nonetheless on your existence? How previous is he? he's 19 & we at the instant are married. 6.) How did your parents react once you instructed them of your being pregnant? they have been supportive, might have prefered it no longer being now. 7.) the place your parents whatsoever in touch on your existence in the previous your being pregnant? They have been the biggest part of my international. 8.) Did your parents communicate over with you approximately intercourse and the consequence of intercourse?particular. 9.) Are you persevering with your training? Taking a twelve months off from college. yet nonetheless persevering with. One semester complete. 10.) What may be your suggestion to different pregnant youth? save your head up & each little thing would be high-quality.

Answer 8

Go to your school counsellor, you aren't the first , and you won't be the last, unlikely they will throw you out, find some support from outside,or phone a sympathetic Auntie-can't you speak to your Mum? It's her Grandchild and she will want to help.
Try not to be angry at your parents, they may think they didn't look after you properly and be cross with themselves already.can you tell Mum how you feel?
Find someone who is sympathetic and see your Dr, health worker,young mothers group.
Wishing you all the best ,look after yourselves and for now put off dealing with baby Father until you have someone on your side to help you.
Don't drop out of school ,they have programs for helping new Mums carry on their courses and get their qualifications perhaps delayed,but still get them.
Your own parents and you will be the best start for you & baby, tell your parents how much you will both need them now and they will come around.
M

Answer 9

i don't think you should drop out of school i did and i regret it all the tI'me I'm 16 and im preg. and married do you want to keep the baby if so you can try home school over the comp.its easy and you can stay home with the baby as for your parents you can try to talk to them and look at your options but you also have to reassure them that it wasn't there falt that it was just a mistake

Answer 10

Well the kids at school calling you a whore there is no way around that. If I were them I probably do the same the reason being is that you shouldn't have gotten pregnant so soon including as young as you are. Don't drop out of school you will ruin your future and the unborn child will not have much of one either. Hopfully your parents are forgiving and help you out.