i just wish i knew weather or not he wants to marry me...i have finally brought it up and this is what i got....please tell me if you think you have ANY IDEA of how he feels MEN ARE SO CONFUSING AND I JUST WANT ANSWERS im scared he doesnt want this like i do--YEAR AND HALF-first said wants to be with me for life-then said wont be ready for engagement for 2-3years -ONE YEAR LATER says- does want me for life but just isnt ready -FOUR MONTHS AGO wants me for life -starting to "think" about kids TWO WKS AGO-wants for life -thinking more about kids-said that after about 2 months of thinking might propose but wants to make for sure that there is NO chance for divorce since are going through kinda rough spot-NITE BEFORE LAST- wants to marriage and kids in future but wants to make sure still scared of divorce
LAST NITE---BORED? said he is bored with life not me but life...i mean after 2 1/2 years of routine i guess its expected but does he REALLY WANT ME FOR LIFE? IS HE GOING TO PROPOSE SOON?
2006-11-06 09:25:58 · 14 answers · asked by crystal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is worth it tho..i cant see myself with anyone else...let me tell you he spoils me rotten...foot rubs almost every nite and if i want it he gets it..i dont even ask i mean i know he loves me i dont think a guy would say he is going to propose if he thought he never would...i mean do we just need to try to find hobbies and more life outside our 4 living room walls and maybe that would ease things up and make him realize commitment isnt jail
2006-11-06 09:38:11 · update #1
I think he DOES want to spend his life with you but is a little scared to make that commitment. Its a huge thing and its more pressure for a man b/c they feel like they should be able to supposrt you and a family. Just let him figure it out. He probably doesnt want you to expect anything so keeps pulling back. Dont force anything. Also, he may just want it to be a surprise when it does happen. But Im not him, so he's the one who really knows.
2006-11-06 09:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by BellaRia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a discussion where you tell him what YOU want out of the relationship. Tell him that if he were to propose you would accept. Tell him that you want to have a child in one, two, three years or whenever. 2 1/2 years is long enough to start planning marriage if you are both over 25 and finished with school or set in your careers or whatever. Some men are just scared of commitment and will never propose. Let him know that you would prefer that he didn't waste your time. If he doesn't want to marry you, then you should try to find someone who will while you are still young and beautiful.
2006-11-06 09:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants you but I guess you need to think if you really want him to propose. How will your life be in the future?1 year later.... I think I wanna buy a house,but what if this area goes bad and we can't resell? 2 years into it... I think we should have a child now but what if I can't be a good father/ we don't make it? 5 years from now...BORED AGAIN... and the fear of divorce still lingures on....
I say get some counseling and work out his fear with the uncontrolled situations in life. Nothing in life is a guarntee you just have to live for love and happiness and work hard at the relationships that matter.
Good luck!!!!
2006-11-06 09:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Big Mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him,.... that's the best.... i remember i went through the same exactly situation 2 years ago.... if he tells you he wants your for life... believe it... tell him how important is for you to get marry... how much you love him... but you are ready to start a family.... is up to him to decide is he wants you in his life or not.....
me and my husband got married just a year ago... but we've been living together for almost 5 years....
i know how you feel... you feel like you are giving all you have.... and he might not.... like you are the only one trying to make that relationship go on.... right? well... you are not forcing him to stay with you.. if he is there with you is because he feels something special for you... don't let you fear play games with you heart....
instead of pointing out what he does wrong... try to appreciate what he does for you... that help me a lot to see how much my husband love me.... and why i should give him time to feel the same way about me.
2006-11-06 09:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by perinsesu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 09:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds too wishy-washy. If he REALLY wanted to get married, it would be a desire so strong, he wouldn't be able to push it aside. If you're having a rough time now, get out. It's a sign that you two don't have the same picture of what the future holds and he sounds like he needs to find himself still.
2006-11-06 09:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a confused guy. Are you sure he is the right guy for you??? Is he worth it????? The way is has been so confusing, he might surprise you when you least expect it with a marriage proposal.
2006-11-06 09:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
confusing but you can't force him into marriage. Sounds like he's confused. just go on with your life and see if he will come around. about asking you to marry him! Don't worry!
2006-11-06 09:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by cruelgirl6915 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he doesn't want you and won't propose soon. It sounds like you live together, so the chances of marriage are even less.
Sorry
2006-11-06 09:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a pig
2006-11-06 09:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋