She Cried!
We have a boy together, and my step daughter lives with her mom, who just had a baby....(8mths old) We always try and do things alone with her and kiss and hug her, but she just always feels jealous....and lets it be known..
She said she dosent want anymore brothers/sisters, Her mom is thinking of adopting another one as well, next year. so she will have 3 brothers an sisters on both sides of her family. She was not accepting the idea of me being pregnant! All tears!
Anyone else experience this...It wasnt the reaction I was hoping for..It really hurt my feelings, Im emotional right now any way....these pregnancy hormones! ha ha
Any advice....
2006-11-06 09:11:19 · 8 answers · asked by crystald 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sounds to me like the 8 year old has alot to handle at such a young age. Parents seperated and having babies. I can understand her frustration. Try to tell her that you understand that this is alot for her to deal with and ask if there is anything you can do to help her feel more comfortable with her new sibling on the way. I know its hard but try not to take it personally. I think its great that you care about her feelings but you need to also take care of you. Congrats on the new baby and good luck.
2006-11-06 09:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by April L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My daughter did the same thing. She was about 9 though. She did get over it, and loved her baby brother a lot. Reassure her that nothing will make you love her less, and talk about some things that might change a bit once the baby is born. Be sure you include her as much as you can.
2006-11-06 09:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't know if just talking to her is going to be enough. If I'm reading this correctly, she is the oldest on both sides and the only child of the divorce and not the remarriages? That can be a LOT for a little girl to deal with, and you should send her to a child psychologist for awhile. They can help her, and teach you how to help her, too.
2006-11-06 13:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times children will feel that they will be loved less or that you will not make time for them just talk to her and take her on shopping trips with you when you buy baby things maybe let her pick out some cloths or toys for the baby make her feel like she is a big part of this babies life and most of all make her feel and know that she is very loved.( maybe let her help pick out a name for the baby ask her what her fav, name is) good luck
2006-11-06 09:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by mcdanieljoanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, beat the crap out of her
Just kidding, she is going to have to learn that life isn't just what she wants and if someone doesn't point these things out to her she will be in for allot of trouble and disappointment in the future.
2006-11-06 09:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Include her in shopping for it and give her reasons to look forward to the new family member. Once you get closer to having it she will change and probably even be excited about it. Just give her time.
2006-11-06 09:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by chinadoll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a very lonely little girl...just give her as much attention as you can and show her, don't just tell her, how much you love her and that she can never be replaced. Good luck!!!
2006-11-06 09:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by chrissiecat85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out with her. Ask her why she doesn't want another sibling, what her concerns are, and how you can help her feel better about it. Figure out exactly how she's feeling and then figure out a way to help her.
2006-11-06 09:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋