Is there anything I can do to prepare for first time sex? AND, how do you have sex.. How do you start????

Question

I'm getting married in 6 days, and I'm still a virgin. My friend recommended "Banana Sex" but then again I don't know. If you could, tell me how you do sex. Sorry for such a morbid question, but I need to know, plus some things I could do to prepare! Much thanks..

Answer 1

It's not a morbid question, and, like everything, it does take some practice. The best sex of your life will not be the first sex of your life.

1. Read up on the topic. I actually suggest "The Joy of Sex". It's old and hokey but it is short and simple, has illustrations, doesn't cover anything too weird, and is good for the beginner.
2. The big thing is mutual arousal. He needs it to have an erection, you need it to lubricate and relax your vagina. I suspect you can figure this one out on your own, but... make out, kiss and touch one another, go down on one another (another thing that will take practice before you get 'good', but still nice for nonexperts). You should be having a lot of fun BEFORE the intercourse starts.
3. The missionary position (woman on her back, guy on top between woman's legs) is easy and popular. If you have trouble, girl on top is also pretty simple and allows you to have control. I would suggest you try one of these two.
4. Take penetration slowly. It will hurt, and you will probably bleed, but it will not be as bad as you are expecting. There's no law that says you can't stop and pull back whenever you want. Buy a personal lubricant like KY Jelly or Astroglide (in the tampon aisle at the store) and use it on both of you to smooth things out.
5. Take your time. You probably will not climax on your first go-round. DON'T FAKE IT. He will never develop his skills unless you are honest about what you enjoy.
6. You may be sore for a few days afterward. Just wash like normal, and be gentle with lovemaking until you feel better.

Unless you want to get pregnant, I suggest you also buy some condoms and read the directions thoroughly before the wedding night. Best of luck in your marriage!

Answer 2

I'm very proud of you for waiting until you are married to have sex.

There is a book called "intended for pleasure" by Ed Wheat that will help you tremendously. You and your fiance should read it together.

Also, just tell him that you are nervous and ask him to please take it slow and be patient and gentle with you. Use KY jelly to ease the penis into you.

And the most important thing is this: Just have fun exploring each other and figuring it out on your own. That's what they used to do way back when, and somehow they got it right. Sex is a gift that you and your husband enjoy only with each other, so don't stress out about it. Technique & "know how" will come with time, and you'll figure out what works and what doesn't.

Oh, and forget about the banana. It's nothing like the real deal.
Blessings!

Answer 3

well its good that you saved yourself, kudos! i guess its tottally alright to be nervous, just as soon as the bedroom door closes just do what feels right. if you want to strip, do that. if you want to make out and move on from there, do that. its not like every wedding night is the same, so just do what you think feels right. and yea, it will probabaly hurt at first, just have him be gentle, tell him if it hurts so he can stop. sex doesn't just have to be intercourse, so if its uncomfortable don't let that be a downer. anyway i can't really give you any of the nitty'gritty details becuase everybody is different! hope you have a great wedding!

Answer 4

Banan sex would take away the excitement of the first time. I would recommend that you have lots of jube available in case you need it (You will know iff you need it.) Relax, and do not do it in a bathtub. Try to make it natural and don't expirement to much the first time.

Answer 5

Just let your husband show you how it's done.. he will teach you everything you need to know...I'm still a virgin too and i'm getting married next year and my future husband knows that i don't know how to do nothing but told me not to stress because we will have the rest of our lives to practice to make things better... talk to you husband and don't stress the first time will probley be a little werid anyways because I heard that it hurts... GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

relax, all these ppl will tell you how it feels for your first time, but trust me, everyone is different on how it feels. tell him ahead of time to be really slow, slowness is the best tip anyone can give you, and i think your new hubby would want the honor of taking your virgity and not some sex toy or banana, ok? just relax, tell him to stop so you can relax your muscels and tell him to go slow.

it works

Answer 7

Just follow his lead. Stay relaxed and keep verbalizing how you feel.. if something is good and especially if something isn't or even hurts. don't be nervous - he loves you and it will just happen without having to choreograph it.

btw - dont get scared over the "it hurts" comments by everyone. we really should say it may feel strange or uncomfortable. it didnt hurt me the first time, or ever... just keep verbalizing what you feel - its good to keep him aware of what your feelig and it will also be a big turn on for him.

Answer 8

Well you simply take your time and you just slowly start massaging and then u start stripping and taking off his clothing and then and there you start to have sex

Answer 9

This isn't something you need lessons about. Just go with whatever happens. It will all work out.

Answer 10

Tell hime that this is your first time and he will proud of you to keep till that day.