He is looking good and everything. Everytime you see him or think of him your heart flutters. You are involved with someone else and have a child with person. How would you handle this?
2006-11-06 08:56:14 · 16 answers · asked by 2h@n@ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's best that u don't ruin what u already have....a family. If your situation had been different then I would've told u to go for it but as it stands, u now have someone else and u have a child too. Concentrate on your family and leave the past behind.
2006-11-06 09:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something tells me that by saying you are involved that you're not married. Cause if you were married you would have said, "I'm married to someone else and have a child."
Nonetheless, you need to stick with the person that is the father of that child. It's not about you, it's not about your husband/boyfriend, it's not about Mr. Good Looking. It's about your CHILD! What's best for that child? Obviously it's to have their father in their life!
2006-11-06 17:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would get over it. you are with someone else. trust me, the pain of losing someone to their first love when they have a child together is almost too much to bear. the child is not all you have in common. you are committed to spending your life with this other person, and you have much more in common together. everything happens for a reason, and there is a reason why you two aren't together anymore. don't give up everything you have with the other person just to see if they changed or whatever, chances are they didn't. and it's just going to hurt you to find out the hard way.
2006-11-06 17:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having the same thoughts as yoou i realised a long time ago if we were meant to be we would have been from the beginning andsince we werent this is just another trial in growing up even if your forty. simplicity is that you have made your life by your choices do you really think you have been wrong all this time and what about the others involved is what you want more important than what they need
2006-11-06 17:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by msocmo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you married to the person you are with? If not, do you have a good, trusting relationship? If so, do not do anything that could ruin that. If you don't have that great of relationship, you still have to think of your child. How will this affect them?
Good luck.
2006-11-06 17:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by hope_a_long52886 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your situation, I realized that all these years later I NEVER fell out of love with him, and here is what I did. I wanted to honest with him and I told him how I felt (we are both married with children). He was flattered but committed to his wife. We saw each other once, and though he said he wanted to stay in touch I have not heard back from him though I sent him an email about my doctor having found a lump in my breast. I have to assume he is shutting me out for the best of his family and mine, which as much as it hurts my feelings, is the right thing to do. Its your heart; just be careful with it and with the hearts of the people around you.
2006-11-06 17:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is from your past. You have to think about this, is he worth losing what you have already? I have a few men that never worked out and I see around town at times and they make my heart patter too, but I would never leave my man for them...What I had with them is long past. Maybe all you feel is lust..and that you can control.
2006-11-06 17:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. It's not worth ruining a good relationship you have now just for something that may or may not last with a person that you used to know, but has probably changed since the last time ya'll were together. Its just not worth it.
2006-11-06 16:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do everything you can to not go near them. Tell your significant other what is going on, who they are/were, and that you still get a "school girl flutter" when you see them, but that it's nothing. Eventually, talking to your significant other will help it go away.
2006-11-06 17:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your past and that is where he should stay. You have a child and another person to think about now
2006-11-06 16:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋