I've been looking through alot of these questions that are posted by middle schoolers and high schools talking about their bad hair day or the fact that the guy they like wont even look at them!...well the truth is I think that with everything that comes at you that is a "problem" we should ask ourselves "is this really going to affect me in the long run" usually the answer will be know hunnies! in 10 years when you are married with children and have a great successful job, nobody is going to call you up and say OMGG I REMEMBER WHEN YOU HAD A BAD HAIR DAY IN 11TH GRADE! soo if you happen to have that oh so horrible bad hair day or have a petty little rumor being spread about you..ignore it! because in the long run it will not affect you :-] just a though...
2006-11-06 08:49:11 · 10 answers · asked by whereHAVEallTHEcowboysGONE 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
lol @ bistro..
I agree..You wont remember things 10 years down the line so just take it a little less serious. I know,i've been there.
2006-11-06 08:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by IamMuslimah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The toughest thing about being in middle school or HS is that you barely have 10 years to look back on. It's only when you get in your later 20s and 30s that you can look back 10 years with a clear memory. Since this puts the mindset of this age group far more into the present tense than people who've graduated, moved on, have families and careers, what happens right now matters a lot.
Then, too, by the time you've graduated all schools - HS and college - are married, have that family and a great career, you've accomplished some very important things in life that help to bolster self-esteem and you've come a long ways in figuring out what it means to be who you are.
The middle schoolers and HS's are just beginning this whole process, in a very now centered mindset, with little from their own past that can inform what's happening to them right now. Yup...a bad hair day really feels that bad in the now.
For you middle schoolers and HS's...bad hair days, questions about significant others, etc happen to us all. It feels miserable now, but eventually you learn how to tame the bad hair days and learn it's not whether the guy likes you, but whether this guy is good for you, really cares about you and will make a good life long partner. Take the time now to do things that help you learn who you are, build your self-esteem, and spend more time observing guys so you'll know the good ones from the ones who will break your heart.
2006-11-06 17:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by sonofstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree and disagree... what happens in middle school can affect you in the long run. when I was in middle school this guy picked on me everyday for 6-8th grade and then I went to highschool and he did also and picked on me there. I got tire of it in 9th grade and had my boyfriend beat him up. That stopped him but the damage was already done. He had broken my self confidence and now at 21 with a great job, nice car, beautiful house and caring family I can finally love my skin.
so sometimes things like that can affect you later on in life even though it seems exaggerated at the time
2006-11-06 16:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a senior in High School, I never had a locker.
it was a hassle at the time, but so what now?
No one is really going to worry that Billy Barnes spread a rumor about this or that 30 years ago, even at your reunions.
Live your life and don't worry about the trivia.
2006-11-06 16:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about how it's going to make them feel 10 years from now, but how they feel about it today. Let them express themselves so that they can get it off their chest and then in 10 years can laugh how they posted that silly question on Y!A. Besides, you won't remember the specific question they asked past 30 seconds after reading it anyway.
2006-11-06 16:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone, you included, focuses on the here and now. Teenagers and adolescents are just as now-focused. To encourage them to focus more on the distant future or the distant past is paramount to encouraging mental illness.
In short: Leave them alone!
2006-11-06 16:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by Eric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indeed. Same thing with grades. If you get a D on something, will it really matter in 10 years?
2006-11-06 16:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto.
2006-11-06 16:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Catswoman1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah but you have to understand its their life now and its going to have an affect on them
2006-11-06 16:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by Fries 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KNOW IS NO.
had to get my 2 in before this is deleted.
2006-11-06 16:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋