this guy i've been dating for three months has not told me that he's married but i found out from some people that know him...how do i get over him? i really like him we like each other alot our relationship is going really well but i don't want to mess up his marriage i asked him if he's married he said no and he never was ....how do i tell him i know without embarassing him?
2006-11-06 08:44:05 · 31 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's a married and a liar. He's using you for sex, and the only thing going well in your relationship is the sex. You deserve to be with someone who is honest, and who truly can commit to you, and you only. Get rid of that loser before you really get hurt.
2006-11-06 20:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by Das 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little shocked that you have to debate this one. He's not being honest with you, as if you really matter. Legally his bound to his wife, meaning there are court proceedings that he must undergo in order to separate from her. He may have to pay her money depending on what the judge decides. That's a tad more serious than "dating for three months". You should let him go, out of respect for a fellow woman (his wife), without blinking an eye. Show some integrity, grow up and move on. Please find something deep within yourself that deserves to be loved entirely by a man, not by a man who can offer you his "days off" from his wife.
2006-11-06 09:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by eyezofmarble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to embarrass him? Letting the scummy cheater know that you know he's a liar, might upset your relationship???? Golly, that WOULD be terrible. Soooo, just pretend you don't know you are dating a married man. That way, he can continue to bang you on the side, without messing up his marriage. Do you really want to settle for that? Are you hoping that perhaps he'll decide to divorce his wife? Someday? Then, you and Prince Spermy can live happily ever after- until he decides to play with some new sucker.
2006-11-06 09:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if you embarrass this pathetic excuse for a human being? Obviously, he didn't care if he embarrassed you. Tell him he is a piece of crap, and find a decent guy. It shouldn't be too hard to move upward after scraping the bottom of the barrel. Think about it. He is not only a liar, but a cheater, with no conscience, as well. Lots of luck to you.
2006-11-06 10:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell him, and then you walk away it is not that hard. Have you ever been to his house? If you have has it been at certain hours? Does he call you at anytime or just certain times of the day? Stop for a minute and ask yourself all those questions, and think about it, You need to just get away from the situation I know it is going to hurt but you don't want to live the rest of your life knowing that you destroyed a marraige.
2006-11-06 08:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're relationship is not going really well if he's married sweety. just make sure what you hear is really the truth. if you have his first and last name you can do a search on him because marriage is public information. just get all the info you can and then make your decision. good luck. but dont feel bad about embarrassing him, if hes married hes making a fool of you!!
2006-11-06 08:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you care if you embarrass him? He has been lying to you, HELLO!! And he is cheating on his wife. If you continue seeing him you will also be in the wrong for your part in this. Take everything he ever told you and consider it a lie. He concealed his marriage, how low can he get!! Run away NOW!
2006-11-06 08:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if you embarrass him? He's married! Walk away...no, run away. If you don't, you'll hurt so many people, including yourself, and you'll have more regrets than you could ever live with. Even if you're not married, you'll be committing adultery, since you know he is married.
Your relationship will never go anywhere and don't think for one minute that "he's different". He just having his cake and eating it too. Think about it...
2006-11-06 08:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by seeya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not worry about embarrassing him. You need to remember that he has been lying to you for three months! He put you in the middle of his marriage without your knowledge. You do not want to be the home wrecker. Now that you know, you need to end it.
2006-11-06 09:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care of he's embarrassed? He's played you and hiw wife! I'd tell him flat out that you know - and I'd tell him HOW you found out. Then I'd end it. And you need to move on - you deserve much better than the leftovers from a married man.
2006-11-06 08:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋