My husband and i got married when we were 18 and 17 right out of high school after a year of dating we eloped. My parents could not stand him at all thought he as a looser and spoiled brat. His family was snobby and thought i ruined there sons life.After being married 3 months it was hard the standard of living for both of us dropped dramaticly i found out i was pregnant he was fine with it till he saw the utra sound we seperated his choice.I went back home(to my parents) and gave birth to our daughter started working for my moms buisness that she owns and going to college. I will be graduating this year with degree in finance.My husband and i have yet to file the paper work for divorce. I started seeing someone else for the last 2 yrs an old friend from kindergarden who moved away when we were young.He is wonderful with my daughter and she calls him dad. Problem is her father recently called and wants to be a family again i dont now what to say?
2006-11-06 08:39:37 · 11 answers · asked by Isabel G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know what estranged hubby is like and i dont want a problem especially since he is raciast and my bf is African American and a little ruff around the edges and appearances but he is in college with me and hard working.
2006-11-06 08:45:44 · update #1
follow your heart
he didnt want you then but maybe hes changed,
good luck
2006-11-06 08:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by daisymayNY 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are seeing someone for the last two years and you don't know what to say!!!! He left you to give birth and raise your daughter on her own, by legal standards I don't even think he has a leg to stand on. File for divorce and move on with your life. You have a relationship with your parents that is worth more than that man will ever be, think of all the good you have before you make that decision. AND as far as your daughter is concerned he is her father because he donated sperm but he isn't her Daddy your current boyfriend is!!!
2006-11-06 08:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me, i understand. I think you should get the divorce behind you once and for all. does your ex's opinion really matter to you? so what your bf is black! so is mine and im white! i have 2 kids from my ex and this man is great to me and the kids. he gives us more love and support than i ever dreamed possible. dont let this guy from your past trouble you so. it sounds like you have found a good life for yourself and with some one you care about. if he wantes to see his daughter you should seriously think about it but dont let old fears and insecurities cause you any head or heartache now. be strong.
2006-11-06 08:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by jenkins_nichole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say, "Where have you been?"
Get the divorce filed get the support called out and send him on his way. What did the ultrasound have to do with anything?
2006-11-06 08:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you have been away out of your husband for 2 years, how can he anticipate you to easily drop each little thing and be a family individuals returned?? Is he mentally impaired?? you have your guy or woman existence now, and you're happy. Your ex can't only drop returned into your existence, its no longer user-friendly on you or your little woman. Has your ex considered your little woman in the two years you have been separated?? If he walked out on you as quickly as, he ought to do it returned! I doubt very lots he ought to reason you lots issues legally, aside from needing get right of entry to to work out your little woman, the undeniable fact which you have been separated for see you later will play a great section, particularly if he hasn't considered your little woman lots in that element. i might tell him that he can see your little woman for get right of entry to (you could no longer somewhat deny him that, and courts may be aggravated in case you dont enable it) yet i might have it supervised until eventually you're happy he's comfortable along with her and you sense gentle. additionally i might tell him you have your guy or woman existence now and somewhat he blew it while he walked out on you only once you mandatory him maximum. until eventually, of direction, you're questioning of taking him returned, i does no longer. no longer in spite of each little thing this time, he needless to say wasn't waiting for parenthood on the time and to think of that he can only walk in after having 2 years of exciting mutually as you have been working annoying and elevating a baby is only ridiculous! supply him his marching orders!! stay your existence!!
2016-10-21 09:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go backwards in life! move foward an hope you will see a bright future with this man who is so good to you an your daughter.
2006-11-06 08:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u go back with your ex, the same problems u had with him before will still be there, he walked out on u when u needed him the most. i would not go back to him, and ruion my chances with the new boyfriend.
2006-11-06 09:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to f uck off, he have a lot of time to get together with you and just now is wanting to gt back together hell no
2006-11-06 08:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to dream on. You have moved on and he needs to also.
2006-11-06 08:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Joesmoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you go Black, you can never go back.
I'll bet it's never occured to you that you're committing adultery - has it ??
2006-11-06 08:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by Pat R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋