My friends are people i have been friends with since kindergarten. There are five of us, including me. In 6th grade and 7th grade i started making friends with different people and wasn't as close to the people i had known all my life. At the end of 7th, three of them asked me to sit with them and i got very close to them again. The fourth one, has become best friends with one of them and seems worried that i will steal her best friend. She has been a complete ***** over it and i am tired of being pushed around and everyone thinking i cause problems. I'm almost mad enough to get physical with her cause i lost a lot of friends over some lies. My friends won't want to be around us if we don't make up. I want to make it clear to my friends that i don't want to tolerate her ****. What can i do?
2006-11-06 08:39:24 · 7 answers · asked by Amba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Friends come and go, like you lost your connection with them before rebuilding it, you will have many people in your life that you will get close to and depart from.
You can't really say anything to your friends about her because the time that you weren't so close to them, they three stuck together, and stayed friends. If you aren't there to steal her bestfriend, then give her that reassurance. Let her know that although there was a time when you all weren't in touch all that much, the fact that you are back doesn't mean that you are there to ruin the connection that they have.
If you want you can let your other friends know that you aren't there to ruin their friendship and if she is constantly going to be giving you attitude and being mean to you because she is under a wrong impression then you'd rather not hang out with them as much. Let them talk to her and decide if they want to hang out with you more or with her.
Try talking to her directly and straight up before talking to the rest of the friends. Whatever you do, when you talk to her don't give her any attitude.
2006-11-06 08:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
looks like ur really heartbroken over this issue. making and breaking up is a part of friendship. just know who u want to be friends with, and finish ur quarrel with the girl. it wont do u ny good, to keep a quarrel. tell ur friends wat shes been doing to u. she might be feeling threatened by u. dont tell any lies about her, they can harm u.
also, friendships lways change, thats coz ur growing, and if u feel u dont have anything common with smbody, dont feel bad, make new friends.hang out with ur other mates. im sure they'll cheer u up, if these friends wont.
b happy and positive.nd everyone likes seeing a smile.
give it time and u'll come out shining, hope ebverything goes well for u.
2006-11-06 17:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i think what you should do is gather all your friends and explain to them that YOU ARE NOT HERE TO STEAL ANYONE..you just wanna be friends.SPEAK to her that what she is thinking and assuming is completely wrong.Tell her that you tried telling her but her throwing attitude wont help any of you.interaction and communication is very necessary in any relationship.So just get it out.Being physical will only aggravate the problem.So think over it.Stay calm and speak from your heart.Everyone understands that language!
2006-11-06 20:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by swankynix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. it happens. sumtimes u out grow ur friends because u want to go ur seperate ways but because ur scared to leave them behind u try to keep hold of sumthin that isnt da same any more.
if ur other friends mean a lot to u then make up wid dis girl for their sake. but keep ur distance from her, just keep it civil. amd wid the others u dnt hav to be wid them all da time to be friends you can still be with other people. dnt feel you hav to spend loads of time wid them if they are true frends they will understand
2006-11-08 05:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out! I think you're trying to control the whole group of friends, and in the process you're going to lose them all. Stop trying to control who's friends with who, or you're going to be the one without any of them.
2006-11-06 16:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Amy N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no problem.. lessen ur friends.. cos u cant able to manage all of them.. filter the best and carry on with them.. U dont bother about the past and future.. My kind request is to dont tell lies to ur friends
2006-11-07 01:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by visakagn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the the answer just try to be honest with you and others and answer will come to naturally.its in your mind back there relax and b+
2006-11-06 19:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by rakshit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋