I am 25 yrs old and just found out I am a little under 3 weeks pregnant. I have been on the pill about 7 yrs now and we did use a condom, so I was very surprised to learn the outcome. The father is someone I just started dating, we've been out a handful of times, I don't see things progressing that much further because we are at two different pts. in our lives. After careful consideration I decided that I cannot have this child, so I am going to terminate the pregnancy this week. My dilemma is do I tell the father or do I just keep this to myself??? I feel that I should tell him because he has a right to know what I am doing, but I also feel that we aren't that serious and I do not want to cause him undue stress. Please help....thx!
2006-11-06 08:24:43 · 24 answers · asked by NeedAdvice 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he has a right to know...same as if the shoe was on the other foot
2006-11-06 08:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by kimandchris2 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, If you plan on terminating this pregnancy, I would keep it to yourself. There could not possibly be any good come out of his knowing.
IF you planned on keeping this child, sure he would have a right to decide whether or not he wanted to be a father and be a part of his/her life.
If you feel he has a right to know, will you also give him the right to be a father? You have a decision to make, no-one else can make it for you.
2006-11-06 08:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by MsElainious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my advice to you is do not be haveing sex with some one you are not serious with because any time you have sex there is a chance that you can get pregnant and now that little baby is going to have to pay the biggest price for you bennifet with its life you said you only went out a handful of times but yet you already sleep with him and this pregnancy is your fault not the babies give it life even if you do not want it give it up for adoption or better yet i will take it as my own so it will not have to be put to death for a crime not commeted
2006-11-06 08:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by mcdanieljoanie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It may be safer not to tell him. If you don't know him well and don't know how he'll react, you should probably err on the side of caution. I have a friend who was in a similar situation - when she told the guy he went nuts and beat the cr@p out of her and put her into the hospital. She had to take out a restraining order because he kept stalking her and threatening her because she had an abortion. Even if your guy is a nice guy, you can't be too careful.
2006-11-06 08:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rose D 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Part of me says youre right - he doesnt need the added stress, and if you dont think this is going anywhere....
Another part of me says "That bastard is causing YOU stress, so why not allow him to join in on the fun?"
Tough choice. Important thing is that youve at least made the right choice to not bring a child into the world while you are unwed and not preparred financially/emotionally, etc. Good for you. Stay Strong.
2006-11-06 08:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Since u guys aren't serious...the child's responsibility goes to u...so u can do with it anything u wish....i don't know what kind of man u have. so i will let u know how he can react to it.
1. feel guilty with u.
2. become happy. so wants to keep the child.
3. leave u for good without saying anything cuz he came to have fun with u.
2006-11-06 08:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him just because if it was me in his shoes i would want to know... maybe he is the man you were destined to be with and this miracle baby is your sign... the worst that could happen is him leaving which you dont seem to be worried about anyways, so tell him.
2006-11-06 08:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by sugar kiss 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! This question is deep and serious. It's hard to answer this one, but, in my opinion, I'd say, Don't tell him. If he's someone your not that serious about and your going to terminate it anyway, then he doesn't need to know.
2006-11-06 08:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_truth 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were the father, I would like to know. [and I might want to keep the child]
2006-11-06 13:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Err 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell him!! it will just complicate things. He doesnt need to know... like you said you dont think this will ever go farther than it already has . I am a man, i can tell you that i would NOT want to know. and as long as you have the ability to forget things that you dont want to remember, then you shouldnt have any problem with getting an abortion.
2006-11-06 08:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by I_Have_all_the_answers... 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know about telling him or not, but as KC put it, I would think about having the child and putting them up for adoption, then you are at least giving someone else a chance on having a baby if they want one and can't have one, and you are not killing a child..
2006-11-06 08:34:09 · answer #11 · answered by chazzer 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋