i have been married for 5 yrs. now and our sex life sucks! he has no control at all or maybe he just don't care! but it has been 3 yrs. now sence i have had a climax! he acts as though he is gods gift in bed so me offering him advice would be harmful to his ego. he pops so quickly that i can never reach that climax area! what would you advise me to do? i would fear foreplay on him due to the mess i would be! he never offers foreplay!
help........?
2006-11-06 08:22:00 · 21 answers · asked by hey_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow , i thought i had it bad! i thought i was the only one in the world who had this problem. i would advise maybe some triple x movies , to give him some hints on the matter. i would also get some toys to play with ...with him of course. good luck , nice to know i am not alone in this world after all!
2006-11-06 08:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry to hear this. He is not being fair to you at all. Im sorry to put it so harsh but I don't think he cares anymore, if a man cared, he would make sure you were satisfied before him. Screw his ego, you need to be honest with him and let him know your not satisfied. Maybe you need to bruise his ego, maybe then he will do his job and satisfy his woman! If it were the other way around you better believe he would have found himself another woman to satisfy him. Here you are being a faithful wife meanwhile he's not even apreciating you. Screw that honey! Your first move should be to talk to him, put it all out on the table and see what he does from there. If things continue I would suggest getting a "daddy" on the side. Sounds bad, I know, but it's worst having a husband who could care less if your saisfied or not.
2006-11-06 16:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has always had this problem. I made sure early in our relationship that he knows that although I love him I will not spend the rest of my life unfulfilled sexually---especially when this problem can easily be overcome. I don't mind a quickie every now and then but my man knows that he has to take the time and put in some effort for my sake. Foreplay, for couples like us, is mandatory. Don't be worried about hurting your man's feelings. Make sure he knows that you don't want to hurt him but that you need to figure out a way that both of you can be sexually satisfied. Every couple will have a solution that is unique to them. Now talk to your man and enjoy finding your solution.
2006-11-06 16:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by kiki 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Offering him advice would be harmful to his ego." This statement almost guarantees a lack of communication. But the way you describe him, his ego is too big. A little harm to it might do him good. The obvious solution is to tell him that he is not allowed to put it inside you until after you have an orgasm, and then hold him to that. Make him use his tongue and/or hands and/or whatever other body part you like.
2006-11-06 16:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a frank discussion with him about this problem. Do not put all the blame on him, but rather express your disappointment and ask him what you can do to help. He needs to know that this is a real problem. In the end, you may hurt his ego, but save your marriage. His ego will recover when he begins to do all the right things.
2006-11-06 16:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for you. Have you tried to point out that he needs to provide a bit more service? There is a couple of undercurrents here. Give no oral, get no oral. Give no foreplay, get no foreplay.
He really needs to be told what you expect. His ego may be hurt but the anticipated affair will hurt more.
You need to talk.
2006-11-06 16:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to talk to him about this. Who cares about his ego? You don't have to be mean about it, but just tell him that you would like to take a little more time and that you like to climax too! If he doesn't listen to you, maybe you should try a sex therapist. Good luck!
2006-11-06 16:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by hope_a_long52886 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
what about YOUR ego? how come you can feel like you don't matter, but he's allowed to prematurly ejaculate every time you lay down for him....
there is something wrong with this picture... if he doesnt' care at all about you during sex, then why should you keep silent for 3 yrs in an effort to care about his ego.
if he isn't gonna freak out and beat the sh%t out of you for mentioning it, then you need to speak up.
2006-11-06 16:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well men can get a bit obnoxious and irratating when all they wana do sometimes is chill and not even pay attention to there wives. 5 years my gosh i couldn't last that long! and 3 years fr a climax! Girl get ur *** on that boy now! who cares if hes so pushy u go out there and do ur thang! Does he like football? dress u in some cutie hot referee outfit to twist him into ur spell. Toherwise go and take sex thearpy with him before he gets to insensitive. *Knock his eyeballs dead*
2006-11-06 16:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by *StarFashion* 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel your pain babe, I am not happy and I get no foreplay for me, I do go down on her and bring her to O and try all I can to satisfy her. Unfortunately I do not get the same in return. Call me, we can satisfy each other.
2006-11-06 16:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by jojobo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋