My ex wants custody of our youngest daughter (12) after me having her all this time ! We have 2 older girls (16&15) . We've been seperated for 10 years . And now he wants custody of only our 12 year old . All live with me . But he only wants the youngest . So that way he can get out of paying 6 more years of Child support . He has no regards to how this makes our other 2 girls feel . Like" why isn't Daddy wanting custody of us too" ? THis makes them feel as if they are not worth fighting for . How do you fellow readers think of him ? And what do you think a Judge will say ? I've had them all this time , I take them to and from school , doctors apps. , pick them up from school when they are sick . I am a stay at home Mom . That has dinner waiting for them . They have 2 younger siblings here at my house also . Will a Judge look at NOT seperating the girls ? He has domestic violence against me and his ex girlfriend after me . And drug charges on him . And oldest found pot in his car .
2006-11-06 08:20:02 · 18 answers · asked by Imamommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is only trying to hurt you. It appears your children should be with you because you are stable. I doubt it your children would benefit with being with him including the child he wants custody of. Judges are smart and they can figure out who is the best parent. Also your children are older enough to make the decision on who they want to stay with and the Judge will take that in consideration as well. When you take law you take courses were you are taught to read people by their demeanor. In the legal field I have worked with many cases like this. And you have nothing to worry yourself about.
2006-11-06 08:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all that you say is true, I would hope that the judge would see it for what it is and deny his request. You need to be sure to document everything that you have done, and demonstrate how safe and secure the girls are. If he has the charges for domestic violence and drugs, his chances are slim that he will get it, just make sure that you can support your case. As far as the 16&15 year old daughters, in most states they would ge to choose where they wanted to live (which parent) and he may fear hearing what they would say. No doubt it hurts them to feel like he is not wanting to get custody of them too, but maybe you should ask him why he is only asking for the one. If he has ever missed any child support payments or failed to pick up the children when he was supposed to, you need to have that all documented. It is ugly and hopfully you can talk him out of even trying, because from the sounds of it, he will only loose.
2006-11-06 16:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is unfair to your two eldest girls and that ur ex SHOULD NOT gain custody of your youngest cause he could do domesticated violence on her and could still be doing drugs. The judge will probably look at his criminal record and see how severe the felony's were and if they are severe enough and/or he has been under supision of drugs or any other kind of felony they probably won't give him custody. You deserve to keep custody of her you have known and spent alot more time with her and your other two girls as well as the fact that you have done everything you can to take care of them(cooking, cleaning, etc...). No offense or anything but your ex is an asshole who ONLY thinks of his needs and doesn't think of how his other girls feel. He needs to consider their feelings too. I hope you win the custody *crosses fingers*.
2006-11-06 16:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no problems to worry about just make sure that you have a good attorney,for the most part judges will not seperate the girls and since you have care of them all this time the judge will order her to stay with you. I think your ex is a complete and total loser who seriously needs to seek some help for the drug use, and he needs to not be able to see any of his kids anymore, he doesn't deserve it. If you want to take it to this point when you go to court ask the judge to appoint a "court appointed attorney" to the kids that way they will be able to talk to the attorney and tell them without you present what they want then that attorney will recommend to the courts what the ideal place for the kids should be, and from what you are saying there is not going to be a problem with them staying with you. I just went through a custody case with my ex and my three kids, and thanks to their attorney there was no doubt who got the custody of them, ME.. So good luck to you and the girls.
2006-11-06 16:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say relax...with a rap sheet like that, I doubt any judge that has any common sense, will award him custody of anyone. Not to mention he is an opportunist not a father. Anyone who wants custody of their kids solely because of money, has no scruples or morality. You are the one that has taken care of them all this time and I am sure the girls can see that, the fact that they wonder about their father's decision to only adopt the younger girl, should make it clear how much of a louse he really is.
2006-11-06 16:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by earthstarlatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sounds to me like your ex is a creep. It is hard to take a child away from their mother. The judge will look at his background and see what he has against him. There is a good chance that you have nothing to worry about especially since he has domestic violence charges against him. Don't worry too much. he would have to prove you as an unfit mother and since she is 12, the judge will let her decide who she wants to live with.
2006-11-06 16:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by BrandyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though i think he is a real jerk , i also think you have nothing to worry about. tell the judge that he is only wanting to get out of those last four yrs. of child support an he will listen. especially with those past domestic violence charges on him. don't be so worried about this situation. tell your older girls that he thinks he has found an easy way out of child support and he has nothing to benifit from , if he takes the older of them. it will hurt but the truth needs to be known by your childern.
2006-11-06 17:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a jerk. and no judge will only give him custody of one child. he has no case to prove that you are an unfit parent so he will not get custody. as for all your kids i feel for what they have to go through with an idiot as a father. you're right he just doesn't want to pay child support anymore.
don't let that worry you. you and your kids are going to stay together
2006-11-06 16:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel....the judge with take into account everything....let him spend his money fighting it will be more than the child support he is paying you trust me. In the mean time try not to involve the children, never talk about the dad and pretend all is fine!! It will work out....
2006-11-06 16:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by liyah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the judge is a total moron, I can't see how or why he or she would break up the family. Also, I would think your daughter is of the age that her testimony will be taken into consideration. I hope the judge or social worker asks how she feels about this.
2006-11-06 17:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by iy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋