My ex wants custody of our youngest daughter (12) after me having her all this time ! We have 2 older girls (16&15) . We've been seperated for 12 years . And now he wants custody of only our 12 year old . All live with me . But he only wants the youngest . So that way he can get out of paying 6 more years of Child support . He has no regards to how this makes our other 2 girls feel . Like" why isn't Daddy wanting custody of us too" ? THis makes them feel as if they are not worth fighting for . How do you fellow readers think of him ? And what do you think a Judge will say ? I've had them all this time , I take them to and from school , doctors apps. , pick them up from school when they are sick . I am a stay at home Mom . That has dinner waiting for them . They have 2 younger siblings here at my house also . Will a Judge look at NOT seperating the girls ? He has domestic violence against me and his ex girlfriend after me . And drug charges on him . And oldest found pot in his car .
2006-11-06 08:19:09 · 15 answers · asked by Imamommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't worry. he sounds like a p.o.s.
2006-11-06 08:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by draftboyg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow- from your story you have alot to put on him infron of the judge. If you try to gt a lawyer or public attorney- they can help you with this. From the looks of this- you can tell the judge what kind of past he has and the jduge will run his backrounnd along wiht your daughters' testimony of finding pot in his car- all this is enough for the judege to rule in your favor and decided that your girls are at risk if they live with him.. THe first thing the jduge will do is ask you if you ahve a home to live in with the girls- if you work- etc. If the judege sees that one of you is not fit to have to children they will loose custody. Sounds like he wants to take the youngest because liek you said it's alot more years or child support and aside from that- he's not supid enough to take 2 girls it's too much work for him and expensive. IF anything- you should fight it in court and tell the judge that your kdis are not safe with ihim with the domestic violence stuff and that will be enough. He will have to pay child support and depending on his backround check he will have visitation rights. Please try to get a good lawyer thouhg because even though all seems to be in favor of you- if he was a lawyer there will be ways for him to get custody of the girls all of them if he wanted to and make YOU PAY FOR CHILD SUPPORT! it's not fair! you've supportted your daughters all this time- do whatever you can to keep them together. Don't let him win the battle- he's only woried about not paying child support! what a waste of a man!
2006-11-06 16:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey he hasnt got a chance in hell. If you are a fit mother and you have had her for twelve years then she is better off with you and her sisters and a judge will see that. The judge will not give him custody unless you are an unfit mother and you dont sound like one at all. The judge is going to let you keep custody because it is in the best interest of the child, and your husband is going to waste a lot of extra time and money in a futile attempt to get custody so dont worry, dont exhaust yourself, he can do that for himself but dont even worry about it.
2006-11-06 16:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all what is your domestic abuse? If it is against him them you will be fine. If it is for another person or a girl you might be in a little trouble I mean very little. The fact that you have been your girls primary provider for 12 years you really shouldn't have anything to worry about. As long as you are a fit mother than thereis no sane judge that would take your kid from you. I don't care what he is threaten you with. Plus, if you want to get dirty bring up the drugs. He has clearly not been there for his kids. He is a dead beat. He needs to go to jail! Good luck!
2006-11-06 16:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They way to sounds to me – it is VERY unlikely that her will get custody...
The courts are generally in favor of giving custody to the mother. To the point of being unfair towards fathers. And normally the courts try to avoid breaking up families. Remember “ best interests of the child” rules in child custody and visitation cases.
So, considering the domestic violence and drug charges he’d have to have a really, really good fathers right attorney and a really really good fathers right attorney would not represent someone of his character.
Still don’t go at it alone – get an attorney and learn about the child custody laws in your state!
2006-11-06 16:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by string1dm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the state you live in, the 12 year old can't decide who she wants to live with yet. He doesn't have a prayer. Most states favor the mother. He doesn't realize that the child will cost more a month to support if she lives with him. He just needs to pay and stop making trouble. Unfortunately, he probably won't. Good luck.
2006-11-06 16:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by TK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Despite all the drama going on in your life, the "judge" will rule in favor of the mother. He will have to pay child support for the next 6 years (like it or not) and you can get on with your life or whats left of it anyway. Do yourself a favor though...cut the guilt calling and finger pointing. That will get you, the children or him nowhere.
2006-11-06 16:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bob P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this sounds so familiar,I don't no what to tell you it all depends on the judge, I though I had nothing to worry about,but found out that his record wont matter,I think its all who can get the best lawyer,and hope you don't get a single father as a judge,Sorry but that is the way it is!!!
2006-11-06 16:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what I think. What does matter is that unless he can prove you to be unfit. He won't have much of a chance in court or in front of a judge. He really has nothing significant working in his favor, but best to have a good lawyer to represent you. Make him pay for the legal fees.
2006-11-06 16:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by seattlego 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so selfish, the courts have to ask a 12 year old what parent they choose to be with.
2006-11-06 16:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask a lawyer, many times what seems "JUST and RIGHT" IS NOT THE LAW, bad place to ask this kind of question, you need legal help !
2006-11-06 16:21:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋