I have been with this one person for about 2 1/2 years and I really really care for him. I love him. I lived with him for a few months and we just started fighting cats and dogs.. now that we dun live together.. everything is fine. I wonder if I will marry this man? I don't know what to do... So how do you know when you are ready to get married and start having kids?
2006-11-06 07:19:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your young, you have life choices and I think its time for you too move on and make some new ones. If you have been around the bin a couple of times and your well into your late 30's then you have to re-evaluate the problem, Is he worth working with to get him together or will he be a complete waste of time because time is not on your side. So it depends but it sounds like your young, so I think in order to find the men out there that are marriage material you have to go through all the motions over a period of more then 2yrs and less then 5yrs. They include, sex, living with him, dealing with inlaws and his siblings and his friends and ex's. If all that works out in his favor and yours, he's marrying material, if it doesn't in that time frame, then good riddens and move on. Good Luck young sista in training.
2006-11-06 07:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting is a normal thing in a relationship. If you're not having it for a long time, something is wrong.
One way of testing your readiness for marriage and kids is to talk it over with him. Ask him what he would do if you got married and have kids. Ask yourself if you are willing to stay with each other and no one else for the rest of your lives.
In reality, asking a question on "how do you know if you are ready" is kind of unnecessary. Only you will know if you are ready. It's more of a feeling not like if you taking a written test to see if you are ready to do a job. You will know in your heart if you are ready for marriage.
If you're still confused if you're ready for marriage or not, do something that relaxes you for a while and try not to think about that subject. After you relaxed for a while then subject comes up again, you might be ready to answer your own question.
2006-11-06 07:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Crono6664 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer I can give you is, "you just know". Not very helpful, I imagine. But this is how it's been for me - it just "felt" right; usually after a very short time. I guess, one way to tackle this problem practically is to look at your life together as it is now, and ask yourself if you can see living like this for the next 5, 10, 20 years. Look at the annoyances and the things he does that drive you nuts - do you think you could tolerate them in the long run? It seems to me, however, is that if you're asking yourself "should I marry him?" - something here probably doesn't "feel" right to you.
2006-11-06 07:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you guy's can't live together now what makes you think that with a "ring" you will be able too? We really can't tell you if you will Marry him.. That is something that you all have to decide. The way to know is there true love are you happy? Can you spend the rest of you're life with him? Those are the things that you need to look at and think about...
Good Luck
2006-11-06 07:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Getz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just know! I was in a relationship for three years and I loved the man but I just couldn't see us being married so I ended the relationship and two years later I met the man of my dreams and on our first date I knew he was the one. Seven months later we were engaged and eight months after that we were married, we've beeen together for 3 1/2 years!
2006-11-06 07:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Born Country 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you can't live with him on a trial basis, what makes you think it's going to work when married? You've been together with him wayyy too long and you don't even have a ring. Those are all bad signs, all red flags. MOVE ON.
My husband asked me to go ring shopping after 1 MONTH of dating. He proposed 3 months later. That's how you know.
2006-11-06 07:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when that missing him feeling never goes away. when everything he sais and does doesn't annoy the living crap out of you and when his respect for you never fails and so on and so on. fighting does suck and every couple hits a rough spot here and there, it is a part of life. Marriage is really hard and the successful ones make it through all the arguments and bickering. if you can see a future with this fella then i say go for it but if there is even a little piece of you that questions yourself wether you want to be with him or not then i say don't marry him.
2006-11-06 07:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by mmh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes more than 2 1/2 years to now some one, just take it slow, thing will fall into place. when the time is right u will know
2006-11-06 07:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him up front if he is wanting to go further into your relationship bring up marriage and having kids. You also need to tell him how you feel about him and how you want more.
2006-11-06 07:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't live with him, you can't marry him.
2006-11-06 07:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋