I (accidentally) found out last week that my husband has been corresponding with his ex girlfriend through email. Or at least that's all I know about. The emails seem pretty innocent...however, I'm not mentioned on any of the email correspondance. My husband has been eagerly awaiting for his 20th HS reunion...and in one of the emails to her - he said he wasn't interested in attending the reunion...but I know he has been working very hard to stay in shape just so he could be thin for this reunion taking place next year. He's talked about this for about a year now. Let me add - this girl was his first love. The girl he lost his virginity 2. Should I worry? Should I confront him? Should he be corresponding with an ex-girlfriend? Please help... I'm going crazy thinking that he could still have some feelings for her.
2006-11-06 07:12:32 · 23 answers · asked by sallyucla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think there is definitely something to worry about!
2006-11-06 07:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends how often and why he's emailing her. If this is only about the 20th reunion, then it may not be an issue. Who doesn't want to look good and show off at a reunion. Is this person the only one he's found thats going to this deal? Do they talk about personal issues? Why did they start corresponding to begin with? I would try to find out a few more details before reacting. And are you going to the reunion with him or does he want to stag it?
2006-11-06 16:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your self confidence - - you are his wife!! She is his ex-girlfriend for a reason, highschool was in his past "puppy love" he is older and more mature now and has choosen his soulmate YOU!
If you already know that he is planning on attending his highschool reunion why are you offended that he has conversated with his exgirlfriend?
When attending a reunion you have so many emotions going on you want to look good, you want to see how others look now, it's one big popularity fashion show etc. it's only natural to reach out to "friends" and a exgirlfriend from the past should be seen as just that a friend.
Now if the converation in the e-mails were a little more intimate, then that would be different, I'd e-mail the SKANK back and let her know that this is MRS. SO & SO and he's a married man now so BACK THE **** OFF *****!!
2006-11-06 15:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by mentalchallenge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. If there is nothing going on between them or no intention for anything to happen then why hide it from you. There is no reason for a married man to be in contact with his first love, especially behind his wife's back....How would he like it if you were in contact with your first love. I would play it cool and keep an eye on those emails, maybe ask some generic questions...like "Have you been in contact with anyone about your reunion, I know how much you've looked forward to it" If he says no...then remember that people with nothing to hide...hide nothing. Make sure to print a copy of every correspondence you find, because men sometimes play it as though we are just crazy jealous. It's not so easy to lie about something you've done when it's right there in black and white staring you in the face. Good luck to you
2006-11-06 15:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still send emails to ex's because we still are friends. I know this is very uncomfortable for you but most of the time people like to stay in touch with old friends as well as ex's but keep it from their mate because sometimes your wife or husband wouldn't understand the friendship and put more into it then what it really is. If the conversations are innocent then that is probably what the relationship between them is" innocent". I would keep an eye on the conversations but honestly if he loves you and only you, then you have nothing to worry about. I wouldn't let him know you even saw the emails, I would just periodically check them out and if they continue to be innocent, then being in the loop undiscovered will help settle all your worries.
2006-11-06 15:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just trying to stay friends with his ex. He probably thinks if he told you that he's talking to his ex, you would freak out and assume the worst without a second thought.
20th HS reunion, who wouldn't be eagerly waiting for it. You get to see people you haven't see in a long time, if you like them. He's probably staying in shape so that he can show off that's he's been doing fine in his years. If you saw someone that looks worse than the last time you saw them, you would have negative thoughts about them.
2006-11-06 15:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Crono6664 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accidentally, hahaa.
I agree with the few people below. He should not be emailing his ex.. Doesn't that make you wonder how long they have been communicating? I would definitely confront him.. and ask him without biting his head off... which i would prolly do anyways.. lol..
They don't have any kids or any real reason to talk. You are married to him.. so.. i hope that he won't continue to keep this up. Let me tell you something.. im only 21 and it seems that all men are dogs.. sorry : (
Well, if he does have feelings for her... just leave his as*!
2006-11-06 15:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already worrying. There is a concern that needs to be clarified with your husband. He's reminiscing on days of old and has intentions of reminiscing with her at the reunion. They may not attend the reunion for they will be having their own "reunion" in a hotel room!
2006-11-06 15:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by lenise1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation where you need to take care of you, your husband has forced this situation upon you and should not be emailing his 'first love' or any other female without your knowledge. He's acting like a 'boy' man; you're not his mommy you're his wife and committed partner. Don't confront him, think of what you expect from him and then sit down and discuss his behavior and how it affects you. Don't be sidetracked into feeling sorry for him, or 'understanding' his behavior, because what he's doing is just not acceptable.
2014-01-01 05:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by dianaleehood 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes im sure he may always have feelings for her. But that doesnt mean you should worry. They obviously did not work out and hes married to you and hes sharing all of his intimate details of the hs reunion with you and not her. He told her he wasnt going mabye because he doesnt want to meet up with her. I just dont get the vibe hes going to leave you for her. yes he may still have vauge feelings for her but its you he married and he probably loves you way more then he loves her. Id just let it go.
2006-11-06 17:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you husband is corresponding with anyone of the opposite work(other than work related) and is not telling you, its not right. The initial communication may seem harmless, but then flirting may start up and one thing leads to the next. If he isn't telling you, its deceptive and I would confront him on it.
2006-11-06 16:40:26 · answer #11 · answered by sexandthecityaint got nothin!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋